I was re-reading some of the Darkover anthologies this past week and one of them had the answer, the story where she goes off-world with one of the more rebellious Renunciate novitiates. Her daughter Shaya (named no doubt in honor of Jaelle) was lost with the rest of the Forbidden Tower folk in the massacre. I would have to double check, but The Bloody Sun with Jeff Kirwin Jr. (Damon Aillard-Alton? Alton-Aillard?)