The Unquiet Bones

by Loreth Anne White

Evil is unspectacular and always human, and shares our bed and eats at our own table. —W. H. Auden

If you want resolution, if you want answers, if you seek closure, bring closure to others. Be the change.

In the context of ambiguous loss, “closure” is a myth . . . We should not be forced to chase closure. What we need to find are ways to coexist with our complex feelings, and to always remember that our reactions are completely normal. They’re not a sign of personal weakness.

“Thanks, Mom,” she says. “For what?” “For being a great mom. Us daughters are not all so lucky.”