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July 14 - July 17, 2024
finding our happiness is the most important thing.
Everything else—the obstacles, the setbacks, the things we don’t understand, the things that come out of nowhere, our shortcomings, our mistakes, what people say or think or do to us—is something we will just figure out.
The joy in letting go of the doubts and fears we held in the past.
The joy in authentically living our truth in the present. The joy in envisioning a future for ourselves. All of those things are possible for us. All of those things are a part of being ace. The
Many of us in the queer community feel we’ve lived two lives.
There’s alife we live not knowing who we are, feeling broken and wrong, feeling like a stranger in our own skin.
It’s a life we live wounded, a life we live damaged.
It hurts to carry that wounded version of us. But we can’t stop carrying it. No matter how far we get, no matter who we become, that first life remains a part of us.
We have to find a way to carry that first life that doesn’t leave scars on the second.
Kintsugi, which means “golden repair,” is a centuries-old Japanese art of repairing broken pottery vessels with gold.
it was once a broken vessel, but it ended up being more beautiful (and more valuable) than it was before it was broken.
The years you spend questioning, wondering, and feeling confused are really hard.
Think about the resilience it takes to own your difference when every message in the world is telling you that your difference makes you wrong or bad or broken.
Think about the courage it takes to admit the truth to yourself, to speak that truth to another person, to become someone and something new.
Those things are beautiful. Those th...
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you can carry it around without getting cut. So you can live that second life as joyfully as you want.
We have to keep working and growing and evolving past the stuff that sucks—a
So remember: You are more than your struggle.
When the days are hard, those days don’t define you.
You’re still all the other cool things you are and do and feel in the world. You’ll
Asexuality is something we live.
The person you are, the friendships you nurture, the romances you develop, the work you do, the communities you build, the families you cultivate, the art you make, the other lives you touch—these are the most important things.
You’re the best representation we could ever have!
The life you live helps shape our community’s story.
Live a life that brings you joy. Live a life that excites you.
Live a life that leaves a mark, however small...
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He gave me permission to imagine a future.
I wish you happiness. Be happy with yourself. You’re this unique, interesting, one-of-a-kind human.
The negativity of the world can’t touch that. It’s yours. Let that be your safe harbor.
I wish you community. We don’t get through this world by ourselves. We need other people. And I hope you find the most amazing people. Your people.
The people who understand you, who support you, who make you feel connected to someth...
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Love and protect them as they love an...
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wish you all the kinds of love there is, and I wish it for you in abundance.
Love is another person seeing worth in who we are, even when we struggle to see it in ourselves.
The Asexuality Visibility & Education Network (AVEN) www.asexuality.org AVEN is the largest global online hub for the asexual community. They house a large archive of asexuality resources.
International Asexuality Day (IAD) www.internationalasexualityday.org IAD is an annual global campaign to promote awareness of the identities under the asexual spectrum.
Asexuality Archive www.asexualityarchive.com The Asexuality Archive collects articles, advice, activism opportunities, and other resources on asexuality.
Quick and Easy Guide to Asexuality by Molly Muldoon and Will Hernandez This book is a warm, approachable and highly informative primer on asexuality. With wonderful illustrations by Hernandez and Muldoon’s thoughtful and wise words, this is a great starting place for anyone thinking about asexuality.
How to Be Ace: A Memoir of Growing Up Asexual by Rebecca Burgess
The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker
Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen
Let’s Talk About Love by Claire Kann How To Be a Normal Person by T. J. Klune
Every Heart a Doorway by Seanan McGuire Loveless by Alice Oseman
Yasmin Benoit (Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok: @theyasminbenoit)
TheAsexualGoddess (Twitter: @AsexualGoddess)
Ace Week (Twitter: @AceWeek
“Ace Dad Advice,” here’s where you can find me: TikTok and Instagram: @acedadadvice Twitter: s@CDaigleOrians YouTube: www.youtube.com/AceDadAdvice Website and advice column: acedadadvice.com
