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Tony Robbins
“What kind of person will I have to become in order to achieve all that I want?” This may be the most important question that you can ask yourself, for its answer will determine the direction you need to head personally. Please take a moment now, and write a paragraph describing all the character traits, skills, abilities, attitudes, and beliefs that you would need to develop in order to achieve all of the goals you’ve written down previously. Certainly you’ll have to take action to achieve those goals. But what qualities will you need to have as a
never leave the site of setting a goal without first taking some form of positive action toward its attainment.
Then develop a list of simple things you can do every day for the next ten days. I can promise you that ten days of small actions in the direction of your goals will begin to create a chain of habits that will ensure your long-term success.
Remember, you need to experience the feeling of achieving your top one-year goals in each of the four categories at least once a
Now that you have goals that truly inspire you, that will drive you forward, you’ve got to make them so compelling that they feel real in your nervous system.
Imagine your goals vividly again and again. Incorporate the visual, auditory, and kinesthetic elements that will make your goal a reality!
the same pattern of thinking that has gotten us to where we are will not get us to where we want to go.
For the next ten days, beginning immediately, commit to taking full control of all your mental and emotional faculties by deciding right now that you will not indulge in or dwell on any unresourceful thoughts or emotions for ten consecutive days.
focusing on solutions.
for the next ten days, you’re going to spend 100 percent of your time on solutions, and no time on problems!
Ten days of focusing entirely upon solutions, on what’s great in your life, on what works and how lucky you are will not make your problems worse.
THE TEN-DAY MENTAL CHALLENGE—RULES OF THE GAME Rule 1. In the next ten consecutive days, refuse to dwell on any unresourceful thoughts or feelings. Refuse to indulge in any disempowering questions or devitalizing vocabulary or metaphors. Rule 2. When you catch yourself beginning to focus on the negative—and you certainly will—you are to immediately use the techniques you’ve learned to redirect your focus toward a better emotional state. Specifically, use the Problem-Solving Questions2 as your first line of attack; for example: “What’s great about this? What’s not perfect yet?” Remember, by
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Success is processional. It’s the result of a series of small disciplines that lead us into habitual patterns of success that no longer require consistent will or effort. Like a freight train picking up speed, this exercise
It’s really an opportunity for you to become “addicted” to a positive focus for the rest of your life.
“Miss a meal, but don’t miss your reading.”
Buffet evaluates his investment decisions quite differently from those who are extremely worried when the market crashes or euphoric when it soars.
If someone is doing better than we are in any area of life, it’s simply because they have a better way of evaluating what things mean and what they should do about it.
when we’re making decisions about what things mean and what to do, we’re in an extremely resourceful state of mind and emotion rather than in a survival mode.
What determines the kind of food you’ll put on your dinner plate also depends on the questions you ask. If when you look at food, you consistently ask the question “What could I eat quickly that would give me an immediate lift?”, the foods you may choose will tend to be heavily processed convenience foods—in layman’s terms, junk. If instead you asked, “What could I have now that would nourish me?”, it’s more likely you’ll pull from such food groups as fruits, juices, vegetables, and salads.
Some people try to succeed, yet at the same time they avoid rejection at all costs. Can you see how this values conflict might cause a person to feel frustrated or immobilized?
If you and I want to change anything in our lives, it’s invariably one of two things: either how we’re feeling or our behaviors.
“I am the source of all my emotions.
Nothing and no one can change how I feel except me.
“Take away the cause, and the effect ceases.” —MIGUEL DE CERVANTES
understanding the Master System allows you to eliminate the cause instead of exhausting yourself fighting the effects.
The emotions we feel and the actions we take are based on how we evaluate things.
we must get clear about what is most important in our lives and decide that we will live by these values, no matter what happens.
Not using your internal compass intelligently results in frustration, disappointment, lack of fulfillment, and a nagging sense that life could be more if only somehow, something were different.
They’re trying to distract themselves from those empty feelings by filling the gap with the behavior that produces a “quick fix” change of state.
Anytime you have difficulty making an important decision, you can be sure that it’s the result of being unclear about your values.
the average person now watching television seven hours a day!
a person who’s trying to achieve the pleasure of success without ever experiencing the pain of rejection will never succeed long term. In fact, this person will sabotage himself before he ever truly succeeds on a major scale.
People will do more to avoid pain than they will to gain pleasure.
If you’re truly going to succeed at the highest level in life, don’t you have to be willing to risk rejection? Don’t you have to be willing to experience it? Isn’t it true that even if you’re an honest and sincere person and give your all to others every day, there are still people who will misinterpret your actions and judge you without even having met you?
person, the potential for rejection is...
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Since your brain inherently knows that in order to succeed you have to risk rejection, and it’s already decided that the feelings of rejection are the ultimate levels of pain, it will make the decision that the pleasure of success is not worth the price, and will ca...
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We’ll do whatever’s necessary, consciously or unconsciously, to keep ourselves from having to experience our most intense levels of pain.
Each person responded according to their rules: their beliefs about what had to happen in order for them to feel good about this experience.
it doesn’t take very much light to wipe out the darkness.
They continued to give themselves the sensations of pain because their expectations had not been met.
the rules we had about what had to happen in order for us to feel good. I call these specific beliefs that determine when we get pain and when we get pleasure rules.
What has to happen in order for you to feel good? Do
What really has to happen in order for you to feel good?
decided that no matter what happened, we’d find a way to enjoy it.
I never fail to be amazed at the overwhelming number of people whose rules wire them for pain.
“What has to happen in order for you to feel successful?”
you could be winning and feel like you’re losing because the scorecard you’re using is unfair.
If you’re being hard on yourself, you’re likely to be hard on others as well.
the majority of people are wired for pain. Their rules make it very, very difficult to feel good, and very easy to feel bad.
“What has to happen in order for you to feel_________?”
