Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

by Kim John Payne

But if a child can’t garner attention from their parents, then attention from someone else will do; and if they can’t attract compassionate attention, any form of attention can seem like a worthwhile substitute.

“You don’t have to tell me what’s up, but I can tell something’s going on, something’s bothering you. In this family, we pull back, take some quiet time. Let’s figure out how we can do that for you.”