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Apply pressure with a flat, still tongue. Make your tongue as firm as possible and then press it against her clitoral head. Like a reflex, she will press her vulva into your tongue.
Tongue Tip: Use a vibrator to provide pressure against her frenulum, a key area for applying pressure. The tip of the vibrator should nestle in snugly beneath the clitoral head. As you apply tongue strokes to the clitoral head, notice that the tip of the vibrator is right beneath your tongue (perhaps even humming against it) and the shaft of the vibrator is underneath your chin.
ANSWER: Whatever you do, don’t attempt to speed things up by increasing the pace of your clitoral stimulation. One of the main complaints of women in regard to men’s oral habits is that they’re too fast and rough.
Also, do not do anything to indicate to her that you’re in a rush or growing impatient. Don’t sigh or groan; don’t get angry or frustrated; don’t
glance at your watch, and certainly don’t say anything like “come on, already.”
Foreplay is the key factor. The more a woman has been erotically stimulated during foreplay, the more easily, and quickly, she will reach orgasm. Rather than trying to decrease the time you’re spending, focus on increasing the pleasure and intimacy you’re providing.
1. She is panting and her voice is shaking uncontrollably. 2. She closes her eyes and her nostrils are widened and she is unable to speak. 3. She is staring at the man. 4. Her ears turn red and her face is flushing, but the tip of her tongue turns slightly colder. 5. Her hands are hot and her abdomen warm, and at the same time her language
becomes almost unintelligible. 6. Her expression looks as though she is bewitched, her body is soft as jelly, and her limbs are droopy. 7. The saliva under her tongue has been sucked dry and her body is pressing against the man. 8. The pulses of her vulva become noticeable and her secretions are flowing.
Cunnilinguists are in a great position to observe the visible signs of arousal, especially when the lights are on. Of particular note will be the darkening in color and deepening in luster of her inner labia, as well as the retraction of the clitoral head into its hood—both are signs that she’s within
ninety seconds of reaching climax. Even in the dark, it’s not hard to observe when the glans has retracted; focus on feeling the head when it’s fully protruded and erect, and you’ll easily be able to recognize its absence.
Think about it: a very small area (the region of her clitoral head) needs to maintain persistent, forceful contact with another very small area (your tongue and gum). Without your hands holding her tightly in position (one under her butt, the other inside her vaginal entrance), without your mouth and gum pressed into her clitoral area and without the methodic, rhythmic sweeps of your tongue,
CONSIDER SPICING UP the action with a bit of anal play. Remember: the clitoris and anus are connected through perineal tissue and the sphincter contracts during orgasm along with the pelvic muscles. In short, the anal region participates in the process of sexual response and is connected to the clitoral network.
• Thus far, you’ve stimulated the perineum and the area just around her anus. Now graze the anus with your fingertip and then insert it—just the fingertip. As soon as you penetrate her anal area, you should feel the tightening of her sphincter muscles against your finger. • Hold this position through her orgasm.
Tongue Tip: When stimulating the anus, you may need some of that lubricant you’ve been keeping on hand. Typically, it won’t be necessary, as some of the moisture from her vulva has naturally made its way south to the perineum and into the anal area, but it doesn’t hurt to be prepared.
Or insert the pinkie or fourth finger of the hand that is involved in manual stimulation—those two fingers are usually neglected anyway during manual stimulation of the vulva, so give them some active duty.
The best way to know if a woman’s faking an orgasm is by knowing how to recognize the real thing.
Tongue Tip: If you’re wondering if her orgasm was the real McCoy, look for the increased prominence of her nipples. It may appear that they are becoming more erect, but in actuality the area of her areolas is subsiding to its normal state. Another sign of her orgasm is the rapid subsidence of her “sex flush” and the appearance of a filmy sheen of perspiration in its place.
TONGUE: Alternate vertical strokes of the tongue with horizontal strokes. On vertical strokes, try to just graze bottom of the clitoral head without fully hitting it. Focus on brushing the head on horizontal strokes. For every five vertical, do one horizontal.
TONGUE: Continue vertical and horizontal strokes. Integrate tongue press against clitoral head. Hold for five seconds.
Answer: Try introducing a vibrator into your action. No matter what your skill level, a vibrator
can prove to be a valuable addition to a cunnilingus session.
Think of the vibrator as a proxy for your tongue and fingers, not as the introduction of a plastic penis. Just because it resembles a penis doesn’t mean that it should be used as one. To that end, a standard “wand-shaped” vibrator, four to six inches long, with the diameter of a quarter, will do just fine. You’re mainly going to engage only the first couple of inches, so really length is immaterial.
• Insert the vibrator into her vaginal entrance (use lubricant if necessary). Stay close to the entrance, and focus on her clitoral cluster. Gently thrust the vibrator in and out. Remember, since you’re focusing on her vaginal entrance, the range of the motion should
Work primarily with the tip of the vibrator. Take your time; let the vibrator rest against her vaginal entrance; this slow, small movement should cause her clitoral cuff to tighten around the vibrator.
