When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

by Brianna Wiest

No matter what’s shifting or what revelations are occurring, you might find that you’re sort of ending where you started, and it’s really more comforting than you’d imagine.

Sometimes, we have to take the back road because the long way around teaches us what we need to know.

There have been so many people who have loved you madly in this life, and yet, not one of them has been able to convince you that you’re enough.

You’ve had less and you’ve laughed until you’ve cried.

Think of one thing, however small it might be, that you may be able to do better today than yesterday.

What small step can I take today to fix a big problem?

Love you have to beg for is not love, it is attachment.

you have to decide that you’re not going to keep investing your time and energy into thoughts and people that are never going to give you anything back.

When you realize that there is no way for you to win a battle that isn’t yours to fight, you don’t lose—you’re freed.

it’s not always our place to tell someone what they need to hear.

We are taking ourselves up on an opportunity to do what is right as opposed to what is easy.

When we start solving problems, the discomfort goes away.

Absolutely everyone knows what they really want—they are just too afraid to want it.

Our purpose is not just something we do, it’s really something we become.

To build yourself into a person you are proud to be, even if nobody else is clapping for you.

If you are certain that you cannot let go of what is hurting you, then don’t.

The extreme pain of a loss of attachment is not the actual loss of the person as it is the loss of what we thought our future would be.

You are writing a blueprint for your brain to adopt. When you can clearly visualize what your end-goal is, you are giving your brain a sort of blueprint or map of what you want and need it to do.

you are going to need to think outside of your current circumstances to change your reality.

You cannot hate your way into a life you love.

When you have anxiety, you are constantly scanning your environment for potential threats and hazards. When you find one, it becomes your obsession.

Just because you can empathize with someone’s pain does not mean their burden is yours to carry.

You do not lose relationships, you outgrow them.

Whatever feelings someone’s absence in your life triggers within you is not their problem to resolve. It is yours.

We don’t crave perfection because it’s an authentic expression of who we are. We use perfection as a defense not only against other people’s potential criticisms, but also against what we know, deep down, is not in alignment in our own lives. It is soothing to make things look just right on the surface when you know that they are wrong just beneath.

Perfection and excellence are not the same thing.

whatever force created those mountain ranges didn’t do it so we’d feel something while we looked at them.

Perfection was always the easy way out, the means of convincing yourself that you are enough for your own existence.

I hope you learn to choose what you already know is right.

When we try to overcorrect, we set standards for ourselves that are impossible to achieve because they are fundamentally unhealthy for us to pursue.

we became convinced the only way to exist is to be constantly proving ourselves to ourselves.

When parents or guardians overcorrect, they do so in an effort to avoid connecting with an authentic version of you that makes them uncomfortable

The root of overcorrecting is not feeling good enough. You don’t need to try to force yourself to stop the over-correcting behavior — you just need to teach yourself that you are enough.

When you start to reconnect with your honest opinions in small ways, you will repair your instincts.

if you start supporting, appreciating, and validating people for who they are, how they look, and what they are doing, that grace will naturally extend back to your own life.

Remember that when other people judge, it’s a projection of an issue they have with themselves, in the same way that your worst judgments of other people are projections of issues you have with yourself.

life is not on pause until you figure everything out.

I mean the courage to wake up every day and stick to the plan.

process of constantly uprooting, which is the self-sabotaging behavior of planting seeds, sprouting them, and then starting all over again.

Nobody feels inspired all of the time. It’s not about waiting until you feel ready. It’s about doing it anyway, and knowing readiness will come.