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Our healed selves are not our most flawless selves. They are not immune to sadness or grief or fear. They are just not controlled by those experiences any longer.
What if the journey is really asking you to love a flawed person, so you might be able to love your own flaws the same way?
This Year, Let Go of The People who Aren’t Ready to Love You
You are not responsible for saving people.
You are not responsible for convincing them they want to be saved.
Note what comes effortlessly to you, within this is a key to your future.
Recognize that whatever bothers you most about other people can reveal the unconscious truth about yourself — use these discomforts as opportunities to heal your own invisible wounds.
You’ve made a bigger impact on the world than you realize. There are more hearts you have soothed in moments of grief, more minds you have inspired to see hope where there was once defeat.
The truth is that to some people, you are the beauty standard.
You will have to stay precisely where you are and learn to mend the wound of your unworthiness before you can be loved.
It’s realizing that the place you’re supposed to be is right where you are now, even if it’s not where you’ll be forever.
Nobody else can save you from yourself.
almost nothing in life leaves us without purpose.
Real growth requires genuine exploration, a period of trial and error. It requires you to first admit that you might not know what you want.
we don’t understand that positive outcomes are often more likely than worst case scenarios,
Everything that is meant for you will feel like a deep exhale, as though you are returning home to a place you forgot existed.
Everything that is truly right for you will seem so simple, so obvious, so comfortable.
Everything that is truly right for you will choose you as quickly as you choose it.
Letting go is not an event, it is a practice. It is something we learn to do with the small stuff, so when the big stuff comes around, we know how.
People want to hear stories that sound like their own.
If you are looking for a sign, looking for something to convince you that you are enough for your own destiny—you will have to start with the first emboldening thing, which is to feel your life from the inside instead of perceiving it from the outside.
What nobody tells you is that consistency outpaces talent.
What’s here for you right now contains within it the wisdom and the growth needed to unlock the next phase.
There is no merit in holding back, nothing gained but a life half lived.
Please do not allow one more moment of your brief and beautiful life to pass where you remain paralyzed beneath the fear of not doing everything just perfectly—a fear that has led you to resist doing anything meaningful at all.
One day, you are going to look back on this time and realize you were always right where you were meant to be.
“What I envy in others is showing me what I desire for myself.”
Instead of letting envy turn you into the pettiest version of yourself, you can understand that within the thing you envy is a truth about what you should be working toward, not what you should be criticizing someone else for having.
“My feelings are messengers, but I don’t have to act on every one of them.”
Is this coming from a place of clear perspective, or a lingering past wound?
“What I wish I had done yesterday is showing me what I need to do today.”
There’s never just one opportunity to do something important in life.
Not even your worst critics are judging you as much as you are judging yourself.
other people are far more likely to value your accomplishments and attributes whereas you focus more on your shortcomings and failures.
“If I just accomplish one thing today, that is enough.”
“I am allowed to express and process deep emotions.”
“I am entitled to my own idea of myself.”
“I can define what success will look like in my own life.”
You are allowed to define success on your own terms. You are allowed to say what is or isn’t enough for your life.
“My purpose might not be my job, and it doesn't have to be.”
Our purpose is just to be alive.
“Nobody is required to live up to my expectations of them.”
“It is safe to let go of the past experiences once I’ve extracted the lesson from them.”
“Right now, my mission is to make the very best of what is in front of me.”
“My most persistent judgments of other people are often a reflection of a block within myself.”
If you don’t acknowledge someone else’s progress, you can’t acknowledge your own. If you villainize someone else’s success, you resist your own. If you sum someone up by their worst traits, you sum yourself up by your own.
“I do not need to feel guilty over what I cannot control.”
Guilting yourself doesn’t make you a better person, it makes you a bitter person, which inevitably results in less-than-admirable behavior.
“I am more powerful than I think I am.”
“My highest potential future life already exists.”
