Happyish

by Jeanette Escudero

Life doesn’t come with a remote. You have to get up and change it yourself.”

If I dwell on all the what-ifs and could’ve-beens, all I’m doing is missing out again. I can’t change the past, so I may as well focus on the present.

He saw me, he loved me, and in my screwed-up way of trying to please everyone, I just became what he needed in a wife and forgot what I needed out of life.

“He just felt that it was the next logical step. That’s a failure waiting to happen. You need passion, not just love,”

I think when you’re younger, you try to impress everyone. You’re constantly on your best behavior because you don’t even know yourself. As you get older and you come to terms with who you are and that there’s no need to make apologies for your actions, it’s easy to be silly.

“And it’s okay to fall apart once in a while. And it’s okay to inconvenience people, and it’s okay to feel your feelings. The people who love you will still love you.

“It’s not about the number of people around you but the quality of the people around you.” I have quality people.

I’VE GOT NINETY-NINE PROBLEMS, AND NINETY OF THEM ARE SCENARIOS I’VE MADE UP IN MY HEAD

You’re a people pleaser, and that’s a wonderful quality, but sometimes you need to be a little selfish. You’re no good to anyone if you’re falling apart yourself.”

Turns out that confronting things is actually a lot easier than running away from them.

Asking for help, sticking around when things get hard, and being authentic, that makes you strong. It turns out that I didn’t have a person all to myself. I have quality people.