The work of another psychologist, Kristin Neff, an associate professor at the University of Texas, shows that if you judge yourself for messing up, you are liable to feel guilt or shame, and it is often this guilt or shame that prevents you from bouncing back and continuing down the path. A theme across all of Neff’s research is that being kind to yourself in the midst of struggle and hardship gives you the resilience that you need to thrive.
