When you lie to yourself about your situation, doubt and anxiety almost always ensue. You go from playing to win to playing not to lose. Psychologists call this the difference between a performance-approach and a performance-avoidance mindset. When you adopt a performance-approach mindset, you are playing to win, focusing on the potential rewards of success. You have an easier time immersing yourself in the moment and entering a flowlike state. Under a performance-avoidance mindset, however, your focus is on dodging mistakes and circumventing danger. You are constantly on the lookout for
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