“We are asking one person to give us what once an entire village of people used to provide,” she says. “It’s crushing us. It puts way too many expectations [on the relationship].” Yes, humans evolved to bond with intimate others, but we also evolved to belong to communities. Our ability to survive, let alone thrive, relies upon being members of a tribe. Asking ourselves or just one other person to fulfill all of our needs is impractical and unwise.
