Some white progressives do want to talk about racism and voluntarily show up at optional workshops or presentations on racism, but they are more likely to be thinking about the other white people who really should be receiving the message, not their own need to hear it. Their first question is often some form of “How can I tell my family/friend about their racism?” I have begun to respond by asking, “Well, how would I tell you about your racism?” My point is that the question assumes it is not the person asking who needs help but always someone else. The asker has arrived and is now ready to
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