How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

by Logan Ury

We’re more terrified of the potential loss of our partner than intrigued by the potential gain of the person we could date instead.

you’re planning on ending the relationship, every day you wait, you’re wasting their time, too.

One of the reasons breakups are so painful is because our brain is hypersensitive to loss. And breakups are a dramatic loss. They are the death of your imagined future with your partner. You’re grieving the loss of what was, what no longer is, and what will never be.

This too shall pass. What you’re feeling now is temporary. Your weird bodily reactions (goodbye, immune system and sleep!) will end, the pain will fade, and you will overcome this terrible stage.

“In some way, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.”

Update your thinking from “Time heals all wounds” to “Meaning heals all wounds.”

Sure, your relationship might leave you with a few cracks, but those cracks, those imperfections, those are sources of strength and beauty, because breakups don’t have to leave you broken, because you’re stronger than you know.”

“It is not the strongest of the species which survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”