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Logan Ury
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January 17 - February 8, 2024
Great relationships are built, not discovered.
Modern life is a path that we must chart on our own.
No relationship is easy all the time. Even the healthiest, most rewarding marriages require effort.
The hard part is the daily work you put in to grow and sustain a great relationship.
The hard part is remembering why you love someone during all the logistical, financial, emotional, and spiritual challenges life throws at you.
First off, don’t believe what you see on Instagram. Images are cropped, blurred, and distorted to send a message.
Love is so much more than a filtered photo captured at sunset.
DON’T LET PERFECT BE THE ENEMY OF GREAT
What’s your goal? To have the world’s best coffee machine or to be happy?
you’ll need to make a decision with the information you have.
We have an incredible tool working on our behalf to make us happy— our brain! Once we commit to something, our brain helps us rationalize why it was the right choice.
The best choice of all is choosing to be happy.
when you’re looking for a long-term partner, you want someone who will be there for you during the highs and the lows. Someone you can rely on. Someone to make decisions with. The Life Partner.
Can I make a life with this person?
“Nothing in life is as important as you think it is while you are thinking about it.”
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
“Early is on time, on time is late, and late means don’t bother showing up.”
“When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unresolvable problems.” The goal isn’t to find someone with whom you don’t fight. It’s to choose a partner with whom you fight well, and who doesn’t make you worry that the fight will end the relationship.
“Your homework is to focus on how you want to feel in your relationship.”
What we choose is highly affected by how the options are displayed.
the point of a dating app is to go out on an actual date, not to spend all of your evenings swiping.
Just because you know where people have been or where they are now doesn’t mean you know where they’re going.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
“Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.”
people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Do not judge others the way you would not want to be judged.”
“In some way, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.”
Update your thinking from “Time heals all wounds” to “Meaning heals all wounds.”
You may not have gotten to choose what happened to your relationship, but you do get to choose (in part) how it makes you feel
Love is a drug that intoxicates us.
Great relationships are created, not discovered.
“It is not the strongest of the species which survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”
The truth is, we never stop growing and changing.
“The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life. Relationships are your story, write well, and edit often.”
Strong partnerships don’t appear by accident. They need attention and choice.
it was an adventure, not an accident.
You designed your life, you held yourself accountable, you were honest with yourself about who you were and what you wanted,
Now go out there and live intentionally ever after.
great relationships are created, not discovered.
You don’t live someone else’s idea of life, you live yours. Now go out there and live intentionally ever after.
