Men Who Hate Women: From incels to pickup artists, the truth about extreme misogyny and how it affects us all

by Laura Bates

Farrell tried to argue that women actually have greater economic capital than men because they are given money from their husbands’ salaries to do the shopping. He suggested that women have only themselves to blame for unequal pay and that anti–sexual harassment protections simply make it unappealing for companies to hire women.

Death to him.

Farrell claimed that women’s “miniskirt power, cleavage power and flirtation power” gave them greater

A man who has never once felt a woman's touch.

social advantages than men and suggested that women make fraudulent sexual harassment and rape claims, while “no one has taught men to sue women for sexual trauma for saying ‘yes,’ then ‘no,’ then ‘yes.’” And he described the “murder, rape and spouse abuse” of women by men as “a minute’s worth of superficial power to compensate for years of underlying powerlessness. They are manifestations of hopelessness committed by the powerless.”4

DEATH DEATH DEATH

Farrell drew a direct comparison between male unemployment and the rape of women, suggesting that both lead to humiliation and the lowering of “self-concept,” because, “when a man has unemployment forced upon him, he is humiliated…he feels violated, he feels imposed upon.”5

LMFAOOO OH YEAH BECAUSE THAT'S THE SAME THING give me a fucking break

Elam has falsely claimed that “women are growing increasingly violent. They are matching men in domestic violence, blow for blow, and they are causing the lions share of injury and death to children in the home.” He famously suggested that October, which is domestic violence awareness month, should be renamed “Bash a violent bitch month” and advised men “to beat the living shit” out of women who are supposedly physically abusive—“and then make them clean up the mess.” He later claimed that this was intended as satire. Yet while the original attempt to launch “Bash a violent bitch month” happened in 2010, Elam has repeatedly doubled down on his suggestion in subsequent years.

These men lack even a microscopic grain of self awareness, it is INCREDIBLE.

it is men, and pretty much men only, who draw power from accomplishment, who invent technology, build nations, cure disease, create empires, and generally advance civilization.

this is a perfect example of selective memory of history

In a 2010 post about rape on AVFM, Elam wrote that women who “dress and act provocatively” are “freaking begging” to get raped, adding that a lot of women are “stupid (and often arrogant) enough” to walk around with a figurative “PLEASE RAPE ME neon sign” above their “empty” and “narcissistic” heads.

mommy issues mommy issues

Women should be terrorized by their men; it’s the only thing that makes them behave better than chimps.”

Men really see women as subhuman, and you know what, women can sense that. That's why nobody wants to fuck you, assholes. Because you're horrible human beings at your core and everyone knows it <3333

If MRAs were genuinely focused on the needs and suffering of male survivors, their efforts might be more successfully directed toward advocating and fundraising for specialist shelters or raising awareness for the stigma surrounding male reporting of abuse, rather than attacking women’s shelters, abusing women’s sexual violence campaigners, and deliberately trying to distort statistics to suggest women are far more violent than men. On the urgent and taboo topic of male victims of sexually violent men, they remain resoundingly silent.

Say it louder!!!

fact-checking feminist outlet Skepchick analyzed national data and in-depth metadata, revealing that over half the time, fathers do not ask for custody at all, and only about 5 percent of all custody cases are contested to the degree that they end up being decided by a court.

Elam said that women have free choice over whether to work full-time or part-time or be full-time mothers and housewives, while men can only choose to work full-time.

No, they literally don't??? This guy is just a giant, walking lie made human.

“We hear a lot about misogyny, which is actually very rare, but a hatred of men is very commonplace… As far as the state is concerned, males are pretty much subhuman and they’ll do anything they can to destroy men’s lives.”

IM SCREAMING how can you, as a man, say misogyny is "rare"????? also men literally treat women as second class citizens (at best) or sex objects (at worst) 98% of the time soooooo

an antifeminist tome featuring a picture of a snarling vampire woman with bloodshot eyes on the front cover,

men really are so wimpy

suggested that women are as physically aggressive as men, if not more so, in intimate relationships.

Please do show me the stats of women hurt in domestic violence relationships versus men. I'll wait.

men fantasize about violently raping women, discuss the best ways to trick and force them into sex, and bitterly rail against their right to vote or have abortions,

Oh but men like this couldn't possibly be the problem right!!????????

Trump’s vocal public assertion (in the wake of sexual assault allegations against Kavanaugh and others) that “it’s a very scary time for young men in America.”29

Unbelievable. Truly un-fucking-believable. The delusion is unfathomable.

But we do know from several studies that men are more likely to engage in trolling or bullying behavior online than women.

Of course they are. They have nothing better to do from their mother's basements or while they sit on their asses while their wives take care of every aspect in their lives lol.

manosphere communities are far more self-obsessed than that. Yes, there are some members who are playing to the crowd. But many more are genuinely invested in their perceived victimhood and their extreme misogyny.

female game developers were forced out of their homes in the wake of threats describing their mutilated corpses and the deaths of their children.

KILL ALL MEN KILL ALL MEN KILL

make male gamers (who were just trying to protect their culture) look bad.

Oh but they do such a good job doing that themselves, they don't need any help <3

“It is unsurprising that the men’s rights movement pioneered and engages in weaponized harassment, given the centrality of the victim narrative to their ideology.”

TEA

35,188 tweets using the hashtag targeted Sarkeesian, for example, and 10,400 were directed at Quinn, compared to just 732 sent to Grayson, whose (falsely) alleged unethical reporting was supposedly the focus of the whole episode.

Men are worms

the manosphere calls for gender equality while indulging in extreme misogyny, demands transparency of statistics while spreading false facts, and portrays itself as the champion of downtrodden victims while espousing the creation of greater gains and protections for the group already most privileged in our society.

SAY IT LOUDER

So Yiannopoulos waded into Gamergate with a deliberately inflammatory article on the influential and widely read Breitbart site, describing the victims of Gamergate abuse as “an army of sociopathic feminist programmers and campaigners…terrorizing the entire community—lying, bullying and manipulating their way around the internet for profit and attention.” After repackaging the (already widely debunked) slurs about Quinn’s sex life and making a string of other unsubstantiated allegations against her, Yiannopoulos went on to mimic many of the tactics already established by the wider campaign. “Let’s be honest,” he wrote. “We’re all used to feeling a niggling suspicion that ‘death threats’ sent to female agitators aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.”10

Men literally invented gaslighting

He described the incident as “the most important battle of the culture war this century”

We're literally only 23 years into the twenty-first century, shut the fuck UP, you dumbass.

He has advised men to expose themselves and start masturbating in front of women in an attempt to harass them into having sex and published blog posts with titles like “How to Choke a Woman.”13

Oh so registered sex offenders? Got it.

Again, it’s easy to think of these men as tiny minorities: a few sad and deluded individuals, clinging to obscure internet fringe groups as a way to feel a sense of belonging.

And yet you NEVER see lonely, sad women doing this.....hmm interesting.

Its user base, unsurprisingly, is heavily male dominated, and it claims that the most common demographic is eighteen- to thirty-four-year-old college-educated men, likely to be located in the United States, the UK, Canada, Australia, or European countries, which tallies precisely with what we know of the broader manosphere.

These men are the most privileged and yet wanna be victims sooooooooooooo bad, it's hilarious.

Intimate photographs of women are shared without their consent, rape fantasies are swapped, and “worthy” trolling targets are eagerly discussed. Women are referred to in derogatory and dehumanizing terms, alongside deeply anti-Semitic jokes and posts about the Holocaust.

The world would be so much better without men.

we are suggesting women should sacrifice their careers as the price for escaping online abuse.

Of course. Because in men's eyes, they are innocent wittle babies and women are at fault for everything, right?

Advice that we shouldn’t “feed the trolls” implies that the problem is simply inevitable: that men will always harass, abuse, and degrade women, so we must inevitably take steps to protect women rather than trying to tackle the problem at its root.

Because men at their core are horrific.

They suggest that the sheer impertinence of a woman daring to have a political opinion is unendurable and that the best way to deal with those who get ideas above their station is to silence them. And to do so violently. When we see rape and death threats bandied across social media in such extraordinarily high numbers, when we watch and take note as social media companies actively refuse to suspend the accounts of those who send the threats, we receive the message that this behavior, this discourse, is acceptable.

one of the most pervasive arguments in defense of online trolls is the most ironic: the noble cry of freedom of speech!

And yet all they do is attempt to silence women

They release polished PR platitudes about working hard to keep everybody safe online, even as women reporting rape and death threats or graphic images of sexual violence are receiving automated responses telling them that the content “doesn’t violate our community standards.” These are companies with an income equivalent to some small countries. The idea that they couldn’t tackle this problem robustly if they wanted to or certainly make enormous improvements very swiftly is laughable.

On March 15, 2019, a twenty-eight-year-old Australian white supremacist walked into the Al Noor Mosque in Christchurch, New Zealand, and started shooting. Fifteen

minutes later, he continued his massacre at the Linwood Islamic Center. Altogether, fifty-one people were killed and forty-nine injured, most of them worshippers ranging between three and seventy-seven years old.

Of 114 U.S. mass shootings using this definition between 1982 and May 2019, 110 were carried out by men.32 Should we really keep turning a blind eye to this overwhelmingly clear statistic because men get offended when we mention it?

men get offended by everything. for all the "snowflake" verbiage they use, they are yet unable to see they're talking about themselves lololol.

The man was ex-military, an airborne infantryman. He was furious that women had been allowed to serve in the army or, as he put it, that they had “got there little cunt ass’s into my unit.” He was religious. He believed that there “are rolls for traditional men, and there are rolls for traditional women. That is the way God created us.”

Militaryman, religious, misogynist. Yep that checks out.

“She’s weaker than you, beneath you, and if she crosses you again, you’ll put her in the hospital.” MATT FORNEY, MANOSPHERE BLOGGER, IN A POST TITLED “THE NECESSITY OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE”

Please tell me someone has beat the shit out of this scumbag <3333

Men hurt women. It is a fact. It is an epidemic. It is a public health catastrophe. It is normal. Over a third of all women worldwide have experienced physical and/or sexual violence (not including sexual harassment) at some point in their lives. One hundred and thirty-seven women across the world are killed by a member of their own family every day.1

They want to see women subjugated as vassals, objects to be used primarily for men’s sexual pleasure and reproduction: pliant, obedient, and servile. The end—achieving this extreme, patriarchal utopia—is considered infinitely more important than the means, which may include everything from trickery to harassment to assault to mass violence.

"why don't women like meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee" read this paragraph and maybe then you'll.......no, not even then. men can't self-reflect. their emotional intelligence is zerooooo

Positioning domestic violence as a means of exerting patriarchal control and ownership is a theory brought vividly to life by cases like that of Kayla Hayes, a nineteen-year-old student whose “controlling and manipulative” ex-boyfriend Seth Fleury bit into her face and half ripped her lower lip off after she broke up with him, because, Hayes said, “he wanted to leave his mark on me for my next boyfriend.”5 It also fits closely with the significant number of cases in which men murder their own children, framed by the perpetrators, in multiple cases, as an attempt to regain control over their family when their female partner threatens to leave—or actually leaves—the relationship.

They are essentially using violence and fear to try to impose traditional, stereotypical gender roles within their relationships in the same way that male supremacists desire the imposition of such roles on a mass scale. In other words, domestic violence is a kind of terrorism, just a quiet, unacknowledged, everyday terrorism.

the fact that upward of 96 percent of terrorists are male, according to FBI data)

“the Justice Department has routinely declined to bring terrorism charges against right-wing extremists, even when their alleged crimes meet the legal definition of domestic terrorism: ideologically motivated acts that are harmful to human life and intended to intimidate civilians, influence policy, or change government conduct.”

So the fact that news media underplay and soften their portrayals of white male terrorists, never define explicitly extremist misogynistic attacks as such, and never reference violent misogyny as a form of terrorism contributes to our societal normalization of such ideologies and such violence

The first is its reluctance to classify white murderers as terrorists with anywhere near the same eagerness as Muslim or nonwhite perpetrators. The second is its tendency to downplay, excuse, and humanize men who commit violence against women in general, including (and particularly) in domestic settings.

After a mass school shooting in Santa Fe, Texas, one headline cried “Spurned Advances Provoked Texas School Shooting, Victim’s Mother Says.” (Indeed, this in itself is a media narrative that would play right into the ideology of an incel reader.)

Blaming women for everything of course. What else is new lol.

“Hen-Pecked Husband Killed Wife Who Called Him ‘Limp and Useless’ over His Erectile Dysfunction.” An article about a man who stabbed his two children to death described him as a “jilted father,” “devastated,” and “heartbroken” after his wife left him—the kind of content MRA blogs drool over.31 A 2019 article about a Welsh man who beat and stabbed his wife and two children to death included quotes from the killer’s sister, who said that her brother “was not a violent man until he saw text messages from other men on his wife’s phone.” In reality, the article itself admitted that he had served a jail sentence for an extended assault on his wife in 2013.32

Just FYI, I hope all these murderers are rotting in hell <3

In July 2016, a man named Lance Hart murdered his wife, Claire, and their nineteen-year-old daughter, Charlotte, in Spalding, Lincolnshire. An article about the incident, by a male writer with no personal knowledge of the case beyond media reports, read as follows: