Reframe #2: Focus on the negatives of the relationship. Okay, okay. So maybe you’re not ready to “think positively” just yet. There’s another way forward. In a study similar to the one I described above, clinical psychologists Sandra Langeslag and Michelle Sanchez asked participants experiencing a breakup to do one of three things: Think negatively about the relationship that ended; read statements about how it’s normal to experience strong feelings after a breakup; or do something entirely different—like eating. They found that those who were asked to think about the negative elements of the
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