KEY TAKEAWAYS F**k the spark! Fireworks and instant chemistry are often absent at the beginning of a relationship. Chemistry can build over time. Context matters. You may not feel the spark with someone, simply because of the environment in which you meet. The spark is not always a good thing. That feeling of chemistry may actually be anxiety because the person doesn’t make it clear how they feel about you. Sometimes the presence of a spark is more an indication of how charming someone is—or how narcissistic—and less a sign of a shared connection. If you feel the spark, that doesn’t
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