Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

by Jessica Fern

Labels can easily keep us stuck in the mindset of this is who I am, and so this is who I will continue to be.

Approximately 15 to 20 percent of the population has a nervous system wired to be more sensitive.

When someone is high in both anxiety and avoidance, they have a fearful-avoidant style.

Attachment researcher Mary Main posits that, in childhood, secure attachment arises when a parent responds in a sensitive way to their child’s need for both autonomous exploration and proximity and comfort.

A common predicament that arises in relationships is referred to as the distancer-pursuer dance.