But You Don’t Look Autistic at All (Bianca Toeps’ Books)

by Bianca Toeps

We close ourselves off to stimuli, and then get blamed for not having any empathy.

To what extent does she accept that our way of processing stimuli is different from hers?

As an autistic, I often feel forced to code-switch, to switch between two different types of behaviour: my own and that which is socially desirable.

Just like her, I have a very low tolerance for bullshit.

To everyone who feels they have to pretend to be something they’re not and who is constantly afraid to step on people’s toes I’d like to give this piece of advice: find better friends. You deserve

especially catch myself showing signs of delayed palilalia, repeating yourself hours after the conversation has passed.

autistics aren’t crybabies. They are people trapped in a world at volume 10.

Are women better at camouflaging, or do they face more severe consequences if they don’t?

“I’m not bossy. I’m the boss!”)

in Tokyo, the entire Starbucks knows when two Americans walk in.

“The most probable hypothesis is that the higher percentage is caused by a diminished sensitivity to social pressure.

People with autism care less about other people’s perceptions and adhering to the norm.

Look at what is possible, not at what isn’t.

their posture, motions and eyes often give away that something’s up.

repetitive motions, clapping or flapping one’s hands or other so-called stims.

many autistics have ba...

Autistic people can have a skittish look in their eyes, or avoid eye contact. As I wrote earlier, making eye contact is a lot more intense for autistics than it is for the average person.

She means well.

some people want to relabel autism, an official diagnosis, to the ‘HSP’ (Highly Sensitive Person) personality type, or worse, empty new-age terms such as ‘Indigo child’:

what I can’t stand is neurotypical people who feel the need to decide for me how I should be addressed.

have accepted that I’m different, and I have found solutions that work for me.