An often-heard statement is that ABA therapy can make your child “indistinguishable from peers”. But I’m begging you, don’t aim for that. Your child is different, and they’ll always be. And that’s OK. By forcing them to be “normal”, you’re telling them you don’t love them as they are. Autistic ways of playing are valid. So are autistic ways of communicating. Stimming is fine. Moving is fine.