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You might feel like you have it all figured out, but there is so much you don’t yet know. Your confidence is turning to arrogance. And arrogance blinds you from growing.
Self-awareness is powerful. Extreme self-awareness is a superpower.
The question is: Are you willing to build a black-belt skill set while keeping a white-belt mindset?”
“It can be all too easy to exchange the curiosity, hunger, and determination that led you here for complacency, arrogance, and ego. But you have to resist that temptation. There is always more to learn to make your best even better.
Even after winning many titles, he said, ‘Curiosity is the most important thing. I want to learn more. Where can I learn more? I just love to learn.’
When you live with a white-belt mindset, every moment is an opportunity to grow. Don’t allow your arrogance to blind you from that.
Who are you kidding?! You aren’t good enough! Everyone knows you can’t actually do this… Your Little Man is only trying to protect you, but the reality is, most of the time you don’t need protecting. More often than not, that voice screeching inside your head is an indicator that you are on the right path. You can’t block all the Little Man lies, but you can choose to do it anyway. Thank your Little Man for trying to protect you, then listen to what your heart calls you to do.
Feel the nerves…DO IT ANYWAY. Feel the pressure of eyes being on you…DO IT ANYWAY. Feel the trepidation of screwing up in public…DO IT ANYWAY. Feel the discomfort of knowing your everything might not be enough…DO IT ANYWAY.
“Remember: Press Pause. Be the Buffalo. Head straight into that storm!”
Instead of wasting time and energy on factors outside your control, you need to be intentional to focus the limited energy you have every day on the things that you do have control over.
Every time I thought, I can’t take this anymore, I was wrong. The truth I try to always remind myself is, this too shall pass.
I learned that the only thing harder than feeling it all is trying to bury it all inside. Oftentimes our feelings are trying to teach us lessons we need to learn, change, and grow from.
I learned that all you can do is give your best. And your best might not be the same from one day to the next. Some days you may only have 30% in your tank, but you gotta learn how to give 100% of that 30%.14 You must train to give...
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the less he tried to control his thoughts and feelings and just focused on controllables, the faster he progressed.
The way I define a growth mindset is believing that anything that happens to me is in my best interests and an opportunity to learn and grow.
We can’t control what has happened to us, but we can control the story we tell ourselves about it. And we can control how we respond to it. We get to decide if we’re going to have a victim mindset or a growth mindset.
Humans are meaning-making machines! Much of our fulfillment in life depends on our perceptions of the events that happen to us.
in their best interests and an opportunity to learn and grow?”
When you believe that everything that happens to you is in your best interests and an opportunity to learn and grow, you are taking ownership of your story, and nothing is more powerful than that.”
“Remember, you have a fire inside you. You can impact the elements just as much as they can impact you. When you’re intentional with your behavior, you can impact the world more than it impacts you. Your circumstances do not define you or limit you. You have the power inside of you. Breathe and be with it. Love the cold. Love all the hard stuff, and watch the obstacles that seemed insurmountable transform into a fun obstacle course when you embrace them as an opportunity to learn and grow.”
Winning is getting in the arena even though you could fall flat on your face.
Winning is facing the storms of life head-on.
Winning is having the courage to live a life true to yourself, not the life others expect of you.
Winning is allowing yourself to feel all that life throws at you.
Winning is working hard when nobody is watching.
We overvalue riches, rewards, achievements, and retirement. We undervalue pain, failure, purposeful work, the process, and the journey.
The lie is believing that we can slay some demons in the dark and then be done with the dark forever.
People often spend more time and energy on their wedding than they do on their marriage.
We constantly think if I could just get “there,” that magical place where we think everything will be different, then everything will be great.
You talk to anyone who has achieved any level of “success,” and they will tell you that if you had asked them five years before making it to their current level, if they thought they would be battling the same demons of frustration, lack of motivation, despair, am I enough, is it worth it, depression, habits, and lack of joy…if they are honest, they will tell you “Not a chance.”
