Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

by Lori Gottlieb

People often mistake numbness for nothingness, but numbness isn’t the absence of feelings; it’s a response to being overwhelmed by too many feelings.

“There’s a difference between pain and suffering,” Wendell says. “You’re going to have to feel pain — everyone feels pain at times — but you don’t have to suffer so much.

Don’t judge your feelings; notice them. Use them as your map. Don’t be afraid of the truth.

Repress those thoughts, and you’ll likely behave “badly.” Acknowledge them, and you’ll grow.