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November 14 - November 20, 2021
“One must not praise, and one must not rebuke.”
Anyone can be happy from this moment onward.
original Greek, philosophia has the meaning “love of wisdom.”
philosophy is “the study of the love of wisdom,” and philosophers are “lovers of wisdom.”
Philosophy is more of a living attitude than a field of study. Religion may convey “all” under the name of God.
“I (Socrates) know that my knowledge is not complete. I know my own ignorance.
Socrates’s famous statement, “I know that I know nothing.”
Keep inquiring and keep walking, without limit.
“Whose task is this?” and divided into “one’s own tasks” and “other people’s tasks.”
Adler says, “You are not living to satisfy other people’s expectations.” And further, “Other people are not living to satisfy your expectations.”
Don’t be afraid of who might be watching; don’t pay attention to other people’s judgment; and don’t seek recognition from others.
Just choose the path that is best for you, and tha...
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The objective of education, in a word, is self-reliance.
Education is not intervention, but assistance toward self-reliance.
There are two objectives for behavior: To be self-reliant To live in harmony with society And there are two objectives for the psychology that supports these behaviors: The consciousness that I have the ability The consciousness that people are my comrades
“Respect denotes the ability to see a person as [they are]; to be aware of [their] unique individuality.”
“Respect means the concern that the other person should grow and unfold as [they are].”
PHILOSOPHER: In this world, no matter how powerful one is, there are two things that cannot be forced. YOUTH: What are they? PHILOSOPHER: Respect and love.
None of us live in an objective world, but instead in a subjective world that
we are not creatures who are determined by past events. Rather, we determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those events.
No matter what has occurred in your life until now, it has no bearing at all on how you live your life from now on. And that you, living “here and now,” are the one who decides your own life.
The philosopher had brought out a piece of paper folded into a triangular column. From where the youth sat, only two of its three faces could be seen. On one face were the words “That bad person,” and on the other, “Poor me.”
“What should I do from now on?”
in Adlerian psychology, we talk to each other about “What should one do from now on?”
the past does not exist. The past you speak of is nothing more than a story skillfully compiled by “you now.” Please understand this point.
Adler forbids reward and punishment. He advises not to rebuke, and not to praise.
first stage of problem behavior is “demand for admiration.”
The second stage of problem behavior is “attention drawing.”
In the third stage of problem behavior, their goals plunge into “power struggles.”
The fourth stage of problem behavior is the one where the person plunges into the stage of “revenge.”
The fifth stage of problem behavior is “proof of incompetence.”
“sense of belonging”;
“One can choose one’s own life.”
The objective of education is “self-reliance.” And the educator is a “counselor.”
In that community where people gather with the goal of being praised, “competition” emerges. One finds it vexing when others are praised, and one is proud of being praised oneself. One is always concerned with how to be praised first and more frequently than everyone else—and beyond that, with how to have a monopoly on the leader’s favor. In this way, the community comes to be controlled by a principle of competition for reward.
it is due to the presence of our rivals keeping up the pace beside us that we continue to step up our efforts. The principle of competition lies at the very root of the power that pushes our society forward.
There is no need to defeat someone. If one can complete the race, isn’t that enough?
A community that is run not on the basis of the principle of competition, but on the principle of cooperation.
Put cooperation with others above all else, instead of competition with others. If you can learn to run your classroom according to the principle of cooperation, your students are likely to adopt a lifestyle in which they see that “people are my comrades.”
The “horizontal relationships” advocated by Adlerian psychology, on the other hand, are imbued with the principle of cooperation.
One does not compete with anyone, and there is no winning or losing.
Adlerian psychology is a horizontal relationship–based “psychology of democracy.”
Being constantly concerned about how one is judged by others, one can no longer live one’s own life.
It becomes a way of living that is no longer free. We have to be free. And if one hopes to find freedom, one must not seek approval. …
people have community feeling inside them inherently. And it is something that is deeply linked to human identity.
a human being’s most fundamental need is the “sense of belonging.” In a word, we do not want to be isolated. We want to have the real feeling that “it’s okay to be here.”
Instead of seeking approval, one has to approve oneself, with one’s own mind.
Having another person decide the worth of “me”—that is dependence. Determining the worth of “me” oneself—that is self-reliance.
Self-reliance is one’s own determining of one’s worth. The attitude of the need for approval, of trying to get another person to decide one’s worth, is just dependence.
By saving another person, one tries to be saved oneself. By passing oneself off as a kind of savior, one attempts to realize one’s own worth.
