Our conditions needed constant tending. Our mutual vigilance, our active caretaking—these things were new. We had to work hard to learn them. We have had to change and adapt and discover in real time what it means to need each other intensely and routinely. To each suffer and struggle to support the other. It’s not how we imagined our marriage. And yet, over the past four years, this interdependence has become the aspect of our relationship we most cherish.
