The choice you make will most likely depend on your son. If he’s shown poor judgment in the past and you don’t trust him, you might choose to parent with control. But if you know him to be sensible and dependable, you can set the context and count on him to behave safely. In doing so, you prepare him to make not just good decisions on Saturday nights but also responsible decisions in the myriad of seductive or peer-influenced situations he will face in the coming years.