Raising Them: Our Adventure in Gender Creative Parenting

by Kyl Myers

How do we fight gender norms? We reinvent childhood.

The goal is not to eliminate gender—the goal is to eliminate gender-based discrimination, disparities, and violence.

I wasn’t about to give in to the binary, the patriarchy, and the status quo and reinforce a tool that maintains systemic gender inequities.

Holding space for the possibility a child might be trans or nonbinary or queer is also preventative care.

This book is for people who believe childhood gender socialization needs a radical overhaul and for people who want to contribute to individuality being celebrated more than conformity.

Things are just things, and everything is for everyone.

There is liberation in gender creative parenting, for parents and for children.

How men are socialized throughout their lives puts them at a higher risk of accidental, unintentional, and premature death.

Accidents happen, but I wondered how many lives could be saved by adjusting what it means to be a boy.

children as young as six endorse the stereotype that men are more intelligent than women.

Can anyone prove to me that the traditional way of treating children with vulvas differently than children with penises is having good outcomes?

kids deserve an opportunity to just be kids and to make their own way to a gender identity that feels right for them.

It’s a privilege of mine as a cisgender person to be able to go with the flow.

Too many transgender, intersex, and nonbinary people have to deal with this on a daily basis, and more cisgender people have to step up to make change.

I want more feminists to realize that by going along with sex-segregated activities—where no one is using genitals to participate—they are complicit in perpetuating gender stereotypes and inequalities.