Raising Them: Our Adventure in Gender Creative Parenting
“What did you have? A boy or a girl?” Kyl and Brent imagined it would be years before their child would identify with a gender. Until then…
As a first-time parent, Kyl Myers had one aspect dialed in from the start: not being beholden to the boy-girl binary, disparities, or stereotypes from the day a child is born. With no wish to eliminate gender but rather gender discr...more
I must say, I was a little disappointed in the book.
I want to start with the positives though: Kyl seems like a very caring parent and I like how personal this book is. This is not a guide or how-to, this is a memoir, and I appreciate that. I will probably r ...more
'Raising Them' written by Kyl Myers, PhD is a memoir portraying her families venture into 'gender-creative' parenting - a term that is new to me but is a welcome alternative to the term 'gender-neutral' which I've always felt is a bit 'meh' and doesn't really do a great job representing the idea of allowing children freedom and a safe environment to explore all that life has to offer, rather than be limited in their life experience by their anatomy. ...more
Dr. Kyl Myers was raised fairly sheltered within the Mormon community, but grows increasingly more interested in learning about the larger world as she continues her education. As part of this awakening, she becomes interested in gender creative parenting, in which parents do not assign a gender to their child(ren) and instead, wait to be informed by them when they are old enough to do so. Myers becomes an advocate and role ...more
As Myers mentions it themselves at the beginning of this book: "This book is for people who are passionate about queering parenting." After finishing this book I fully agr ...more
This book made me think a lot; about gender, about how we look at boys and girls different from the moment that they are born, and about how I want to raise my future children.
This book is the story of Kyl and Brent as they decided to raise their child gender neutral. This meant that no one besides doctors and those taking care of Zoomer new the biological sex of their child, they reject all labels of gender, and are waiting for ...more
(Note: ‘they’ is the pronoun used for Kyl in the ‘About the author’ section, so that’s what I will use.)
They were not preachy or judgmental at all in their choice to be a gender creative parent. When their sister worried ...more
I have followed Zoomer's story on instagram and I loved getting a deeper look into their family. Hearing how they navigated this world with their own family, friends, and out on their ...more
Part autobiographical memoir, part invaluable parenting resource, Kyl Myers has created a work that could utterly transform the lives of families today and generations to come. This book opened my eyes to the deepest, most toxic layers of societal “gender norms” and the impact t ...more
The big take away I got from this book was really thinking about and identifying gender stereotypes that we all face on a daily basis and the harm they can cause. This book lead to my own inte ...more
I really liked this book - the pacing was good, as was the writing. I learned a lot about gender creative parenting (which I'd never considered before). Though not a parent myself, you can tell that little Zoomer is so blessed to have a loving mother and father, and that they are loved unconditionally.
I will now consciously NOT ask a pregnant person what they are having (who cares, happy and healthy is all that matters), or coo at a baby in a stroller with some l ...more
Author - Kyl Myers
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My rating -4 ⭐
There can't be a better day than today to write about this book.
Exactly a year back, I started doing #GebderSensitization and #GenderTransformation workshops fir teenagers.
While it's fantastic to celebrate iconic and trail blazer women, I thought it was equally important to discuss why gender inequities exist in the first place.
Tentatively, I embarked on this journey- I was also learning, debat ...more
If you are looking for a 'how-to' guide, this ...more