In the years since, they had never truly deviated from that pattern. She was the aggressor. She wanted things: his company, his letters, and later, his body. He kept his distance and withheld his body as if he were the city of Vienna and she the Mongol Horde just outside the gate.
thomas manages this role reversal without turning Lord Ingram into a wimp or Charlotte into a hussy (except with him) because their reactions are so specific to each other.