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by
Jay Shetty
Started reading
July 10, 2024
For every negative person in your life, have three uplifting people.
In life, as in sports, being around better players pushes you to grow.
The desire to save others is ego-driven.
Similarly, if you have the time and mind space to help another person, go for it.
negativity doesn’t always come from other people and it isn’t always spoken aloud.
Envy, complaint, anger—it’s easier to blame those around us for a culture of negativity, but purifying our own thoughts will protect us from the influence of others.
In fact, when we find ourselves judging others, we should take note. It’s a signal that our minds are tricking us into thinking we’re moving forward when in truth we’re stuck.
Letting go doesn’t mean wiping away negative thoughts, feelings, and ideas completely. The truth is that these thoughts will always arise—it is what we do with them that makes the difference.
What we judge or envy or suspect in someone else can guide us to the darkness we have within ourselves.
Remember, saying whatever we want, whenever we want, however we want, is not freedom. Real freedom is not feeling the need to say these things.
Australian community worker Neil Barringham said, “The grass is greener where you water it.”
It is important to find our significance not from thinking other people have it better but from being the person we want to be.
giving attention to your thoughts and emotions, can foster growth and healing, not only mentally, but also physically.
Instead of being angry, we might better describe ourselves as annoyed, defensive, or spiteful.
“There is toxicity everywhere around us. In the environment, in the political atmosphere, but the origin is in people’s hearts.
Unless we clean the ecology of our own heart and inspire others to
do the same, we will be an instrument of polluting...
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But those factors don’t impede forgiveness because it is, first and foremost, internal. It frees you from anger.
you can’t fix yourself by breaking someone else.
Write everything you wanted to say but never had a chance. You don’t have to feel forgiveness. Yet. When you write it down, what you’re doing is beginning to understand the pain more specifically so that you can slowly let it go.
When you cause pain and others cause you pain, it’s as if your hearts get twisted together into an uncomfortable knot. When we forgive, we start to separate our pain from theirs and to heal ourselves emotionally.
The less time you fixate on everyone else, the more time you have to focus on yourself.
Fear does not prevent death. It prevents life. —Buddha
Fear of punishment, humiliation, or failure—and
This gives you a new perspective: the confidence that when bad things happen, you will find ways to handle them.
“You’ve got to recognize your pain.”
how I was perceived by others. What would they think of me? My root fear influences my decision-making.
“Is this decision influenced by how others will perceive me?”
“It is not possible to control all external events; but if I simply control my mind, what need is there to control other things?”
We are all the lucky vacationers enjoying our stay in Hotel Earth.
“What am I afraid of losing?”
your fear of having these things taken away. Now
“Our fears are more numerous than our dangers, and we suffer more in our imagination than reality.”
“What you run from only stays with you longer,”
“Find what you’re afraid of most and go live there.”
In our heads we have an image of an ideal life: our relationships, how we spend our time in work and leisure, what we want to achieve. Even
want the experience of having studied
are curious about what you might learn from the process.”
Fear. Thakura describes this as being driven by “sickness, poverty, fear of hell or fear of death.”
Desire. Seeking personal gratification through success, wealth, and pleasure.
Duty. Motivated by gratitude, responsibility, and the desire to...
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Love. Compelled by care for others and the ur...
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When I ask people to write down their goals, they often give answers describing what most people think of as success.
“As long as we keep attaching our happiness to the external events of our lives, which are ever changing, we’ll always be left waiting for it.”
Material gratification is external, but happiness is internal.
Happiness and fulfillment come only from mastering the mind and connecting with the soul—not from objects or attainments.
Success doesn’t guarantee happiness, and happiness doesn’t require success.
Happiness is feeling good about yourself, having close relationships, making the world a better place.
We all have different goals, but we all want the same things: a life full of joy and meaning.
life isn’t all sunshine and unicorns, but it is always possible to find meaning.
