The Rudest Book Ever

by Shwetabh Gangwar

Do these patterns suggest an approach of carelessness, destructiveness, impulsiveness or of seriousness, self-control and an attempt at stability?

take all the kids who decide to become doctors because their parents are doctors, only to later realise they don’t actually wanna be doctors themselves.

happiness is not the same as satisfaction

I may feel happy, but I don’t know if I am satisfied.

to be at peace with yourself, you will have to know your ‘self’ first.

the knowledge of self produces the knowledge of what you don’t want, which is far more important than knowing what the self wants.

The other part is knowing what would give you long-lasting happiness. And that has very little to do with enjoyment and more to do with stability and structure in life, thus creating peacefulness in the long run.

Feeling-based sounds something like: This makes me feel good, therefore this is good. I want it. Thinking-based sounds like: Just because something makes me feel good doesn’t mean it’s good. I will think about if I really want it.

In short, happiness is a by-product of life done right.

most people are simply children who have aged.

It’s because ‘the list of what makes you happy’ was decided back when you were a clueless, confused kid. And you stuck with that list because it did bring you momentary happiness from being accepted by and having relationships with fantasy people, fantasy experiences, and even achieving some milestones in your career for the approval of these fantasy people.

You can’t because a part of you is genuinely convinced that their union with your existence brings you the ultimate happiness.

It’s because you are a happiness-junkie, that hit of happiness is much more valuable to you than your self-respect, mental health and the overall peacefulness in your life.

You don’t work, because whatever you do instead of working makes you happy. It’s as simple as that.

Things that add betterment to your life aren’t about making you happy, they’re about hard work.

And you consciously choose momentary happiness over the betterment of your life because you are fucking addicted to being happy.

You can’t say ‘no’ because you can’t afford to make people unhappy.

People being happy with you gives you so much pleasure that it feels like a much bigger reward than what you would feel if you stood up for yourself and said ‘no’.

In short, because happiness is your priority, self-respect is ignored.

These assumptions exist only because you have no idea what would make your ‘self’ happy.

If ‘growing up’ was the problem, then you are suggesting a life without responsibilities, duties and consequences is better, and that is called escapism.

Making yourself happy. Making others happy to make yourself happy. Making yourself sad because others are presumably happy.

Making yourself sad because you used to be happy.

You have to say, fuck happiness. I don’t want to be happy, I want to be satisfied in life. I want self-satisfaction.

you would be fine without everything you currently believe makes you happy.

Manipulation tends to seriously fuck with your ability to make a rational choice.

Manipulation feeds on weaknesses and vulnerabilities.

the first would be wants that contribute to long-term results;

the second would be wants that bring you momentary happiness.

Any of your wants that serve stability and cultivation majorly influence how you think in life, the choices you make and how you see things.

This means that you have come in contact with something that not only made sense to you but took you to a place where you were alone and thinking.

Always remember: the true test of any idea is not its popularity, but how deeply it makes you think.

From now on, any time you feel anything is making you think, it’s an indication that you need to look into it more. Don’t move on.

Your wants and actions come under the category ‘interest’ only when they are controlled by you, not you by them.

Ask yourself what stimulates your mind and captures your interest. Those would be your real interests.

you are presented with a choice: either do what everybody around you is doing, or focus on what interests you.

People go away, they don’t give a shit about you, people give a shit about themselves;

they are interested in people around them because a lot of entertainment comes from people. It’s called gossip.

people may not care about you, but they do make observations.

You are accumulating self-worth from the appreciation of others. That is the root of your problem. Not people who are better than you.

Your problem is your motivation comes from the outside, and you have labelled outsiders as the ideal source for your motivation.

If you want to be crazily motivated to do anything, a hundred per cent of the reasons to do that thing will have to come from the inside.

you being in full control of your actions and decisions.

While self-control takes care of inner demons, self-respect takes care of enemies outside.

The desire, urges or tendencies in you that cause harm are the terrorists.

Your ego cares too much about how people see you, what people think of you, and how to control those two.

You get to control what you do and how you think—that’s your only privilege.

your ego doesn’t only teach you I can, but also: They can’t.

‘Truth is rarely pure and never simple’. This idea is both.

One of the worst things you can do to your ‘self’ is call someone your hero or role model.