I didn’t journey from shame to unshame by being talked out of it. Instead, again and again and again and again, I experienced the activation of my green zone: the ventral vagal circuit of my social engagement system. Every time I wanted to run and hide and dissociate because of shame, there was the therapist, drawing me back into green, regulating me with her deep, steady compassion, her empathy, her unwavering acceptance, despite all my shameful emotionality and trauma. This book captures a tiny glimpse of that. My regret is that I couldn’t capture more, but how do you capture with words what
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