avoidant attachment with our primary caregivers. In this case we had to develop some kind of internal mechanism, a mental model, to decrease our drive for connection, literally disconnecting from not only our own internal worlds, but also from the relational connections with others. What’s more, with avoidant attachment, when we were hurting, we were all alone. No one was there to soothe us when we were angry, or disappointed, or injured, or in any other kind of distress. We had to handle life’s challenges by ourselves.
