“Look,” she said. “Bottom line. Given our unusual history with each other, a custody battle between the two of us is going to be the gossip story of the decade. I’d like to avoid that as much as possible. I don’t want my past dragged into the present any more than I’m guessing you do. So let me be clear with you. I haven’t filed and have no plans to file for any kind of custody. I’m coming to you as a person. I’m asking you to give me a chance. Let me show you who I am. Let me gain your trust. Get to know me and then and only then, if you feel comfortable, let me get to know my daughter.”
maybe you should have approached him like this BEFORE you showed up at his house. on his daughter's birthday. and started talking to her. without his knowledge!
