CHANGING YOUR DEFECTIVENESS LIFETRAP 1. Understand your childhood feelings of defectiveness and shame. Feel the wounded child within you. 2. List signs that you might be coping with Defectiveness through Escape or Counterattack (i.e., avoiding or compensating). 3. Try to stop these behaviors designed to Escape or Counterattack. 4. Monitor your feelings of defectiveness and shame.
