Reinventing Your Life

by Jeffrey E. Young

LIFETRAPS IN RELATIONSHIPS 1. You often feel people are taking advantage of you, even when there is little concrete proof. 2. You allow other people to mistreat you because you are afraid of them or because you feel it is all you deserve. 3. You are quick to attack other people because you expect them to hurt you or put you down. 4. You have a very hard time enjoying sex—it feels like an obligation or you cannot derive pleasure. 5. You are reluctant to reveal personal information because you worry that people will use it against you. 6. You are reluctant to show your weaknesses because you expect people to take advantage of them. 7. You feel nervous around people because you worry that they will humiliate you. 8. You give in too easily to other people because you are afraid of them. 9. You feel that other people seem to enjoy your suffering. 10. You have a definite sadistic or cruel side, even though you may not show it. 11. You allow other people to take advantage of you because “it is better than being alone.” 12. You feel that men/women cannot be trusted. 13. You do not remember large portions of your childhood. 14. When you are frightened of someone, you “tune out,” as if part of you is not really there. 15. You often feel people have hidden motives or bad intentions, even when you have little proof. 16. You often have sado-masochistic fantasies. 17. You avoid getting close to men/women because you cannot trust them. 18. You feel frightened around men/women and you do ...