THE ORIGINS OF THE DEFECTIVENESS LIFETRAP 1. Someone in your family was extremely critical, demeaning, or punitive toward you. You were repeatedly criticized or punished for how you looked, how you behaved, or what you said. 2. You were made to feel like a disappointment by a parent. 3. You were rejected or unloved by one or both of your parents. 4. You were sexually, physically, or emotionally abused by a family member. 5. You were blamed all the time for things that went wrong in your family.
