The other thing that bothered me about coming out as transgender was feeling like I would be upending some people’s lives, leaving a storm of shame and confusion in my midst. My family, mostly. I worried about my parents having to decide what to tell their friends who’ve always known them as having a daughter. There would be countless times they’d have to come out on my behalf. I thought about ex-boyfriends having an identity crisis over thinking that the “woman” they were attracted to is “now” a man. I thought about the people who told me they hoped their daughters would grow up to be strong,
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