Sometimes people who are familiar and comfortable with gender nonconformity can have the most trouble understanding trans people, binary or not, who want to transition. I’ve known a few butch lesbians, drag queens, and androgynous-presenting cis people, for example, who are comfortable in their assigned genders and struggle at first to understand why others might need to transition—why they can’t be comfortable just wearing different clothes or being that gender part-time. No one is wrong here. It’s just that there are so many ways to be so many different genders, and it can be difficult to
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