The important thing to remember is that it’s very likely that, at least on some level, the trans person in question has always felt like the gender they are. It wasn’t something “new” that they “changed” once they came out and shared with everyone. When I think about my childhood, it feels more true to my experience to think of myself as having been a little boy, even though most people saw me as a little girl. By referring to a person the way they identify now, even when talking about the past, you’re validating their gender and recognizing that they didn’t just “change” genders when they
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