How to Stop Losing Your Shit with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent

by Carla Naumburg

The four nonnegotiable BuRPs (Button Reduction Practices) for cooling down your buttons are Single-Tasking, Sleep, Support, and Self-Compassion. 9. The following BurRPs will also help you stay calm in the face of chaos: Simplify, Stretch, Seek Silence, Slow Down, Say Thank You, and Breathe. 10. In addition to taking care of your buttons, you must also take space—physical and psychological—from your children. That’s not bad parenting; just the opposite. You’ll be more present and patient and less likely to freak out when you’ve had a little break. 11. The next time you’re on the verge of losing it, or even mid-meltdown, all you need to do is Notice, Pause, and Do Literally Anything Else. Grab your oxygen mask and start breathing.