Our children don’t need us constantly by their sides. That sort of continuous attention can feel intrusive and irritating. Rather, they need us to attune to their needs, to notice when they’re calm and happy and want to be left alone, or when they’re struggling and can figure it out on their own, as opposed to when they actually need our help. This sort of thoughtful responsiveness requires us to slow down, get out of our own heads, and remember that a strong relationship isn’t about unwavering connection. It’s about noticing what your child needs at this moment, what you need, letting your
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