Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

by Lori Gottlieb

“There’s something likable in everyone,”

It’s impossible to get to know people deeply and not come to like them.

We can’t have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same.

No matter how open we as a society are about formerly private matters, the stigma around our emotional struggles remains formidable.

Even when we aren’t exhausted, sitting in silence together feels peaceful, relaxing. But if silence can be heard, tonight’s silence sounds different. If you’ve ever been in love, you know the kind of silence I’m talking about: silence on a frequency only your significant other can perceive.

The only way to get to the other side of the tunnel is to go through it, not around it.

Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way.

Do I miss him, or do I miss the idea of him?

People don’t always remember events or conversations clearly, but they do remember with great accuracy how an experience made them feel.

“There’s a difference between pain and suffering,” Wendell says. “You’re going to have to feel pain — everyone feels pain at times — but you don’t have to suffer so much. You’re not choosing the pain, but you’re choosing the suffering.”

Don’t judge your feelings; notice them. Use them as your map. Don’t be afraid of the truth.

We tend to think that the future happens later, but we’re creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it.

people who are demanding, critical, and angry tend to suffer from intense loneliness. I know that a person who acts this way both wants to be seen and is terrified of being seen.

The answer to an unasked question is always no,

This! ❤️ Never thought about this. Gives perspective.