If you’re used to feeling abandoned, if you already know what it’s like for people to disappoint or reject you — well, it may not feel good, but at least there are no surprises; you know the customs in your own homeland. Once you step into foreign territory, though — if you spend time with reliable people who find you appealing and interesting — you might feel anxious and disoriented. All of a sudden, nothing’s familiar. You have no landmarks, nothing to go by, and all of the predictability of the world you’re used to is gone. The place you came from may not be great — it might, in fact, be
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