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Dr. Harper
You know that feeling in your gut, when you know something is terribly wrong, but you don’t want to believe it? That’s the feeling that keeps me up at night.
found nothing of concern. Of course they didn’t. Alex knew I’d report him, so he hid everything. Shit.
“Every day, you feel empty,” I said. “Disconnected from the world and people around you. Like there’s no point to it all.
“Sometimes, when we’re carrying around abandonment and rejection, we just keep finding more of it,”
“Jesus, do you want to be the next Parkland guard, like your missing buddy? World famous for letting innocent kids die?”
We ran through the hallway as the alarm blared: Active shooter… This is not a drill… Take cover…
Have you ever had someone frantically obsessed with you? Someone who keeps contacting you, despite your repeated attempts to end that contact? Someone angry and unpredictable, someone who refuses to back down? You fear for your life every second of the day. You don’t sleep anymore. You have nightmares constantly, as your body tries to keep you alert. The primal fear instincts kick in, and they don’t easily shut down.
“What if shame and fear are the only things blocking you from realizing who you truly are?”
“The problem with PTSD is that the body and mind work on overdrive to prevent the same fear or pain from happening again. It’s like repeatedly touching a hot stove to remind yourself that it hurts. It’s stuck in a feedback loop.”
“Stolen conversation,” he said proudly. “Convo-looted.” I stared at him and blinked. “Please get out of my office.”
I find it very obnoxious when people present problems with obvious solutions, dismiss the solution, and continue complaining about the problem.
“The most reliable sign, the most universal behavior of unscrupulous people is not directed, as one might imagine, at our fearfulness. It is, perversely, an appeal to our sympathy.”
Once we rebuild the self-respect and self-worth, everything else tends to fall into place.
“The most common partner of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder isn’t the Narcissist,” I said. “It’s Codependency. Caretaking. People pleasing. Rescuing. People who feel responsible for the emotions of others, burdened by constant guilt and worry when conflicts arise.”
“It doesn’t have to be abuse,” I said. “Just someone who took up a lot of space. Emotional outbursts, constant fights, rigid rules, drinking issues, unpredictable moods… Anything like that?”
“You’re all of them,” I said. “When we carry these wounds, we continue entering relationships and repeating the same story. Maybe we start as the rescuer, but our victimized partner inevitably comes to see us as the perpetrator. So we become the bad guy in their eyes. Then we’re so exhausted and drained that we start to feel like the victim ourselves.”
Love is not heavy and sad. It is not pitiful and tragic. Love is light – infinite and open. It flows freely from within.”
Partners of narcissists and sociopaths often develop Complex PTSD, which can look a lot like BPD.
Sociopaths love to play innocent while their victims self-destruct and question their own sanity.
