Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life beyond Your Wildest Dreams

by Gabrielle Bernstein

The metaphysical text A Course in Miracles teaches, “There are no ‘idle’ thoughts. All thinking produces form on some level.” Each thought we have emits energy.

The energy behind our thoughts directly affects our experiences.

I can tell when I’m out of alignment because I become focused on outside goals and objectives as opposed to the joy of life. When I’m misaligned, I try to control my circumstances. I’m resentful, my energy is low, and I feel physically ill. It’s a struggle to get things done, and I cut off the flow of inspiration.

when I’m in alignment with the Universe, I feel happy and excited regardless of what my circumstances may be. I’m hopeful and positive even when I face challenges. I’m not worried, stressed, or focused on problems. Good things flow to me, and I feel creativity moving through me. People want to support me, and I find a way through every block.

What I experienced was an energy shift. I accepted that in an instant I could choose again and redirect my life. I embraced the truth: The instant we realign with love, the Universe responds powerfully. In any given moment, we can change our story and say yes to what we truly want. As soon as we do, the Universe delivers.

My husband noticed my shift and said, “All right, what happened? You’re in such a better place.” I said, “I told the Universe I was ready to realign.”

The key to getting back into alignment is to want it. In an instant we can forgive our fear and choose again. We can start a new story, shift our perceptions, and allow miracles to unfold. Low-vibe thoughts become addictive, and as with any addiction, we need to interrupt the pattern to heal

I forgive my past, I release the future, and I honor how I feel in the present.

Even the toughest experiences offer you great wisdom and direction. Be grateful for what has caused you discomfort, because it reveals to you what you still need to heal. Take a moment to thank the situations in your life that don’t feel good. Bless these issues so that you can set them free.

Take a minute now to see the job loss as an opportunity to shift your career toward work that brings you joy.

Throughout my life, these simple shifts have helped me transform darkness into light. One of the most powerful examples for me occurred on October 2, 2005. This was the day I chose to put down alcohol and drugs and get sober.

Every difficult situation in my life, no matter how hard it seemed at the time, has offered me grace on the other side. I’ve made a choice to grow through pain and find honor in all that I’ve been through. Choosing to see difficult times with grace has helped me move out of the feeling of being a victim and feel proud of myself for my willingness to grow.

Even if you were able to ignore the world around you, perhaps by avoidance or escapism, you would do so at the expense of the greater good. You would deprive the world of your positive energy, which affects not just you but everyone you come into contact with.

The Universe is always conspiring to support you, guide you, and compassionately lead you toward the highest good.

YOUR MORNING MANTRAS My body is rested and my mind is clear. I start my day with positive thoughts and energy. I am relaxed, nonresistant, and clear. My day unfolds with ease and grace. People support me throughout the day. The Universe supports my desires today. I am open to receiving greatness. I am energized and inspired. Creative possibilities are available to me. Nothing holds me back. I take action with faith and clarity. I am healthy, well, and vibrant. Today is a great day. I’m having fun today. I bring joy to others. I bring light with me wherever I go. I am a positive influence on the world. All is well.

In order to truly live as a Super Attractor, we must accept that good things can come easily.

We believe in thoughts like “I have to work incredibly hard to succeed,” “I’m too old to have a baby,” and “I’m terrible at relationships.” Can you see how all these thoughts are backed with an energy of resistance? Our resistance to feeling good is what blocks the good that we want to attract.

The moment we release that resistance and let ourselves feel good, then everything we truly desire begins to come to us naturally. When we feel good, we attract solutions rather than problems. When we feel good, life flows naturally.

Feeling good guided me toward what I truly wanted. I could finally focus on being an empowering spiritual teacher—and more importantly, I could release the fear of not being supported and the belief that I had to do everything myself.

We think that we must live in fear in order to get something we want, which will then allow us to feel good. But the truth is that once you feel good, you start to easily attract what you desire! When we make feeling good our priority, everything else can flow.

At one point Deepak said that when you’re happy for a particular reason, you’re still in misery—because that reason can be taken from you tomorrow. His words reminded me that when we focus on what we think we need, we weaken our faith in the Universe.

The Universe wants you to feel good and wants to guide you toward exactly what you want and need. Remember, you are one with the Universal energy of love, and feeling good is your birthright.

I recognize I’m out of alignment with [name a person, situation, belief system, etc.]. I choose to release the outcome and feel good now. Thank you, Universe, for guiding me.

Her attitude is relaxed and calm even in the most chaotic of circumstances. I can envision her saying, “Okay, everything’s working out.” She can turn to that place of certainty no matter what’s happening around her. I love this about her, and I want to embody it for myself.

I’m in the process of giving myself permission to slow down and take better care of myself even if it means saying no to personal or business opportunities. My intention is to feel good first before I do anything else. And if that means I have to say no, then I will.

Over the years of being a spiritual teacher, I have welcomed people’s stories and held each one with deep compassion. But this time it was too close to home. I began to feel my faith dwindle and my positive momentum slow down. I started to worry about some of the stories I was hearing and project them onto myself. I became very conscious of how other people’s words were affecting me. So as soon as I noticed that I wasn’t feeling good, I decided to pivot.

After several months of gently deflecting the negative stories and choosing to commit to feeling good, something interesting happened. I noticed that I was no longer getting negative messages or comments at all. It was almost as if I was immune to them. My commitment to feeling good sent out a message to the Universe that I was no longer a match for negative fertility stories.

Not only was I no longer hearing the negative stories, but I was also attracting so many happy stories. Every woman I heard from was coming to me with positive, miraculous stories of fertility. It was amazing to see how my commitment to feeling good made me a Super Attractor for stories that would support my intention.

Practice protecting your good-feeling emotions at all costs. Darkness cannot coexist in your light, so keep shining! In certain settings, you may need to redirect conversations, unfollow people on social media, or even leave the room. Be kind and loving toward others while creating clear boundaries that protect your good-feeling emotions. You can choose how you perceive your world. You are the dreamer of your dream.

The reason you want every single thing that you want, is because you think you will feel really good when you get there. But if you don’t feel really good on your way to there, you can’t get there. You have to be satisfied with what-is while you’re reaching for more.

Enjoy the practice of feeling good. As I’ve said, this whole idea may be really new to you, and your ego is likely to resist it.

She jokingly said, “Gabby, I love you, but I still can’t get over that I’m in second place! I am very competitive.” I said to her, “The reason for my success here is because I wasn’t competing.”

While it’s awesome to finish first or win a big prize, it wasn’t my primary focus. I can honestly say that the reason I won was because my energy was surrendered, my focus was on having fun, and I didn’t care about the outcome.

I wasn’t some strategic mastermind. I just enjoyed the process. I share this because I want to emphasize that it’s safe to have big dreams and not care about the results! In fact, the moment we release the results, we let ...

If you choose to see rejection as guidance, then what is there to fear?

If your offer on a house falls through, it’s because that house wasn’t for you. If you make it to the final round of interviews for what you’ve decided is your dream job and someone else gets the position, guess what? It wasn’t your dream job.

Accepting rejection as guidance gives you another opportunity to follow the flow of the Universe and strengthen your faith in a plan better than your own. Most importantly, you’ll no longer fear rejection. Releasing that fear will give you the freedom to dream big, take fearless action, and let life lead you. Follow the guidance you receive, even when it feels like rejection. You’ll be surprised. Rejection can be the greatest guidance of all.

We block our real achievements when we don’t enjoy the journey. When I stopped living from achievement to achievement and started focusing on the fun along the way, my life got great! I started to feel more connected to my friends, my husband, and my work. I was more present, and life began to flow. I relaxed and let myself celebrate the miracle moments.

When I dropped the need-more mentality, I achieved SO MUCH more than I thought possible! When we enjoy the moment and let the Universe flow through us, we are guided to create what God intended rather than what we think we need.

Our vibes attract our tribe.

Protect your desires to stay in alignment

Put your feelings above all else, and respect your feelings by keeping them close while you’re in the process of strengthening your faith.

One way you must protect your desires is by creating clear, loving boundaries with anyone who resists them. It’s not uncommon to find that people in your life have a preconceived notion of who they think you should be or perhaps who you used to be.

When you find your desires challenged by others, respond by creating compassionate boundaries. Those around you don’t even need to know that you’re creati...

For instance, if you’re prompted to talk about a desire before it’s ready to be shared, you can kindly say, “I’m currently developing some new ideas and projects. They mean a lot to me, so I’m not goi...

Or you can request that certain topics be left a...

In some instances, it’s impractical to create loving boundaries. In those situations, you can consciously disengage from people who bring you down energetically.

If you’re trying to attract more money, limit your time with those friends who constantly talk about their financial problems. If you want to manifest a new partner, don’t engage with people who are always complaining about their relationship dramas. If you’re ready to step into a new passion project, don’t share it with someone who you know to be pessimistic.

I’ve made it my priority to choose friends, team members, and partners who believe in my visions. I have no space in my life for anyone who stifles my flow. Protect your dreams no matter what.

Another way to protect your feelings and emotions is to keep your visions to yourself befo...