Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything

by B.J. Fogg

As you slide the cards side to side, remember that there’s no judgment here. Imagine yourself doing the behavior. Do you feel a little pop of dread? Or do you feel excited about doing the behavior? There is plenty of room in between these feelings, but the important distinction here is between “want” and “should.”

I need you to understand that even if I want to do something, the second it becomes a thing I'm *supposed* to do the want disappears. It is called Pathological Demand Avoidance and it makes the distinction between want and should basically nonexistent. I put playing Sims on my to do list because having it there means I no longer want to do it.

It turned out that getting good grades, earning the teacher’s approval, and learning her multiplication tables were not as important to Rachel as doing what she wanted to in the moment.

Yes. That is basically the definition of ADHD. Also being nine years old.