Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

by Vex King

Stop trying to impress people. Impress yourself. Stretch yourself. Test yourself. Be the best version of you that you can be.

It’s important to recognize that it’s not unjust to let go of those who show no concern for you.

true self-love is when you appreciate where you are and who you are, regardless of any transformation you aspire to.

Improving yourself and your life is also self-love, because it means you recognize that you deserve more than settling for mediocrity.

self-love allows us to find balance between mindset and action.

Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it.

Change the way you think, feel, speak and act, and you begin to change your world.

Based on the principle of the Law of Vibration, to receive good vibes we must project good vibes. As transmitters and receivers of vibrational frequencies, the vibrations we put out are always pulling in stuff that’s vibrating at a similar frequency to us.

Avoid drama. Walk away in silence from anything that doesn’t improve your life. Calmness among chaos is a sign of emotional maturity.

Our ego always wants to feel significant and adored. It seeksinstant gratification. It wants to feel more powerful than other people.

There are better ways to spend your time than gossiping or involving yourself in dramas. Instead, try to focus on your own life and on trying to improve it. Time is precious and you should be investing it wisely by doing something constructive that will make your life greater.

The more you count your blessings, the more blessings you’ll have to count.

Too many of us direct our energy towards our fears. I’m not saying your problems don’t exist, but try instead to focus your energy on solutions to those problems. The Universe is abundant in all areas; the illusion of fear is the only limitation we have.

her joy wasn’t dependent on how others interacted with her.

Repetition is the key to mastery. If you rehearse over and over again a situation in which you deal with the emotion, you’ll know exactly how to manage it next time it comes up in your life.

Meditation eases the resistance that your ego creates. This brings a sense of calm, clarity and enhanced patience.

Your personal growth is an ongoing process and it can take a long time to get to a place where you’re unaffected by other people’s behaviour.

Unhealthy relationships drain all the goodness out of us. We give everything to someone who just won’t match our efforts and willingness to try.

Sometimes, people will settle for inadequate relationships because they believe they won’t find someone better, or that the task of finding someone new and rebuilding something from scratch is too long and difficult. Their intuition will tell them that they deserve better, but they won’t courageously act on it.

It’s okay to move on from people who aren’t giving you back the same energy. Whether they’re friends, family or lovers, don’t be afraid to let go of relationships that no longer serve a purpose in your life. Dead weight will weigh you down and feel exhausting to carry around.

If you don’t prove that you’re serious about what you want to do, you can’t expect other people to be serious about it either.

Before you try to fix someone else’s vibe, make sure you’re not killing your own in the process. Protect your own energy first.

Not everyone is going to get you, accept you or even try to understand you. Some people will just not receive your energy well. Make peace with that and keep on moving towards your joy.

Earlier, we learned that actions driven by a low vibrational state, such as anger, will only hurt us further, and that includes the bad karma these actions will create. So don’t allow the cruelty of others to define your future.

If you keep trying to satisfy others, you’ll never keep up. In the end, you’ll satisfy neither them nor yourself.

You won’t be important to other people all the time, and that’s why you have to be important to yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. Take care of yourself. Encourage positive self-talk – and become your own support system. Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. Don’t rely on others.

When you accept yourself as you are, you put emphasis on your own wellbeing and joy – and you’ll be content with the idea that not everyone will accept you as you are. You’ll know your worth, so you won’t care if others don’t recognize it.

Don’t let socially constructed ideas about beauty lower your self-esteem. There are no rules to beauty. Accept and love yourself as you are. Embrace your flaws and get comfortable in your own skin. Wear your imperfections like they don’t need a season to be fashionable.

Looking to others for inspiration is fine, but there’s a difference between inspiration and envy.

Look at other people’s lives and applaud their successes. And then continue to pursue your own. Be grateful for what you have right now. And remember how far you’ve come as you continue in the direction of your dreams.

Physical beauty does nothing but satisfy physical needs. Only those with real substance can satisfy the hearts, minds and souls of others.

We assume success is about being famous, rich and owning expensive things. But if you’ve pulled yourself out of a dark place, that’s a great success in itself. Don’t forget that you’re winning each day you don’t give up and you make it through to the next.

Your individuality is a blessing, not a burden. If you try to be like everyone else, your life will be no greater than theirs. By following the crowd, you’ll become a part of it and fail to stand out. By travelling the same road as them, you won’t get the chance to see anything different from what they see.

But just because everyone else is doing it does not mean it’s right.

The truth is that, either way, you’re going to be judged, whether you live life on your own terms or on other people’s.

You can listen to the crowd, or you can listen to your soul and be on your own stage.

Authenticity is rare these days, and many of our actions are at the suggestion of someone else. Without drawing you into paranoia, we’re easily reprogrammed to satisfy the needs of another human being – or, indeed, of a corporation.

They will call you quiet because you’re perfectly happy in silence.

Forgive yourself for the bad decisions you’ve made, or the times you lacked belief, for the times you hurt others and yourself. Forgive yourself for all the mistakes you’ve made. What matters most is that you’re willing to move forward with a better mindset.

Beating yourself up won’t change the situation. It’s what you strive for next that matters most.

Forgiveness isn’t about condoning someone’s poor behaviour and it doesn’t always mean that you need to invite individuals back into your life; it simply means that you’ll no longer allow them power over your thoughts and control over your emotional state. That way, they can’t dictate your destiny.

Positive thinking is the act of choosing ideas that empower you over those that limit you.

The philosopher Immanuel Kant pointed out over 200 years ago that all of our experiences, including all the colours, sensations and objects we perceive, are just representations in our mind. Reality is only based on individual perception.

Our perception of the world is rooted in our beliefs. These beliefs are our individual truths that build our subjective realities. All human beings are basically just belief systems. A belief is a feeling of certainty about a particular thing; it’s a passive knowing.

Your mentality forms your reality. So the next time someone tells you you’re being unrealistic about your goal and to come back to reality, realize that it’s only their reality that they’re talking about, not yours.

Your subconscious mind is responsible for your beliefs. All that you perceive is a result of what you accept as true in your subconscious mind.

If you can’t change a situation, change your perception of it. That’s where your personal power lies. Either be controlled – or be in control.

You’re not your thoughts. You’re the witness of each thought.

This is the practice of living consciously: unlearning and reconditioning the mind so you can have more freedom to be who you really are. It’s not a quick process, but with dedication it’ll allow you to shift from a cycle of negative thinking to a new mode of positive thinking.

In short: rather than trying to control external events, concentrate on controlling how your mind responds to them. This gives you back your personal power and is the key to a happy life.