Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

by Vex King

This is why when you truly believe in something and act as if it were already true, you increase the chances of it coming to you in your physical reality.

Sometimes we can believe we’re in a positive state of mind or taking good actions, but deep down we know we’re not; we’re just pretending.

If we feel good we’ll think good thoughts, and as a result we’ll take positive actions.

Vibration, to receive good vibes we must project good vibes. As transmitters and receivers of vibrational frequencies, the vibrations we put out are always pulling in stuff that’s vibrating at a similar frequency to us. This means the feelings we put out into the Universe will be

vibrations. So, if you send out feelings of joy, then you’ll be given more things to feel joyful about. The common misconception is that you’ll feel good only once you have what you want. The truth is that you can feel good right now.

Meditation and the introspective act of studying your low-vibration emotions can help you to transform these to higher-vibration emotions. Thus, meditation might help you to view the fall out with your friend in a more positive way.

Since everything is energy, you could say that everything you engage with will affect your vibration somehow. But new actions and changing your mindset in a positive way are also elements of self-love, to become the best – and happiest – person you can be.

Have you ever met someone for the first time and felt like something isn’t quite right about them? You can’t quite put your finger on it, but you just get a bad vibe and usually you find out later on that there was a good reason for this feeling. Energy doesn’t

You’ve probably experienced the opposite, too. There are certain people who we identify as being full of positive energy. They always seem to infect those around them with their good vibes. I’ve changed my emotional state many times just by being around cheerful people.

The Law of Vibration suggests that we attract people who are vibrating on the same frequency as us. So, if we can begin to experience more positive emotions on a regular basis as a result of other people, we’ll attract even more positive people into our life, thus reinforcing the good vibes around us.

If you can act like someone who feels good, your internal state will change and your vibration will rise.

But the idea that you can ‘fake it till you make it’ has been proven many times. For example, Muhammad Ali famously said, ‘To be a great champion, you must believe you are the best.

Sometimes you have to unplug yourself from the world for a moment, so you can reset yourself.

The longer you stay peopled out without a recharge, the higher the chance that you’ll lower other people’s vibrations.

Regardless, spreading gossip preys on our ego: we do it to try to feel good about ourselves; to feel superior to others. It’s very often judgemental, and most judgements stem from hatred, which is a low vibrational state that will only

lead to you inviting unpleasant experiences into your life.

Ayurveda, the ancient Indian medical system, says gossiping affects some of our energy centres, known as chakras. This actively restricts us from ascending to higher vibrational states.

I’ve learned to avoid drama at all costs because it does nothing good for me. I once came across a high-drama person who attempted to argue with me about a point I’d made. Ironically, my point had been that we should walk away

from fights because they can destruct our peace, but he didn’t believe that we should. When I kindly told him that I respected our differences and we should move on, he got angry. If I’d felt he was actually interested in my perspective, I’d have been happy to share it and listen to his. However, he only wanted to argue, to prove me wrong and drag me down.

Avoid drama. Walk away in silence from anything that doesn’t improve your life. Calmness among chaos is a sign of emotional maturity.

It didn’t seem like this person cared deeply for other people’s wellbeing, or that he wanted to prevent suffering in the world. His aggressive behaviour contradicted his points. He simply needed to justify why he was right and

This is the work of the ego. Your ego is your self-image created by thought. It’s your social mask, one that constantly requires validation because it lives in fear of losing its sense of identity. When you’re upset because someone doesn’t like you, it’s your ego operating: you validate your existence based on their approval. When they disapprove of you, you no longer feel good about who you are.

They want people to follow their truth, not because they necessarily care about others, but because they fear being wrong and not knowing who they are. There are a lot of high-drama people in the world who seem to thrive in these toxic conditions.

Time is precious and you should be investing it wisely by doing something constructive that will make your life greater.

We also tend to compare ourselves to those we consider more fortunate than us, rather than those who are less fortunate. Just think of the amount of people who have to live through war on a daily basis. But we’re completely safe from such troubles, and many more that we hear about in the news.

The more you count your blessings, the more blessings you’ll have to count.

Too many of us direct our energy towards our fears. I’m not saying your problems don’t exist, but try instead to focus your energy on solutions to those problems. The Universe is abundant in

all areas; the illusion of fear is the only limitation we have.

venomous thought sits deep within your mind, it’ll reappear when you experience a similar situation in the future. Not only will this lower your vibration, but the continuity of this pattern can also damage your mental health, and in turn your physical health. You may also become

This technique not only boosts confidence, but it may also bring forth a solution. You may remember something you did during a similar situation in the past that helped you to manage it.

Visualize yourself handling the emotion you’re currently feeling – in the future. As you do this, not only will your vibration increase, but you’ll also begin to create an autonomous association with that emotion that will enable your brain to handle it for you effortlessly down the line.

were so engrossed in the moment that you had no time to worry about the past or the future. You were simply enjoying where you were. This is what’s known as being in the present moment.

never really aware of what we have in the present moment. Eventually, we realize that we’ve never really lived. Or we finally have the riches we wanted, yet we can’t enjoy them because there’s always something else to achieve.

The meditation exercise that I’ll discuss next can help you to connect to the present. By developing awareness of the present moment, we can maintain a higher vibration because we avoid being paralysed by past pain or future fear.

You practise meditation by being fully present in the moment via your senses, while calmly observing your thoughts, emotions and bodily sensations – from a distance, without judgement.

Meditate now – a step-by-step guide Use your intuition to assess your level of energy. How would you rate your vibration level from one to 10, if one is I feel low and I don’t want to do anything,

Try it for 15 minutes a day, for 30 consecutive days. If that seems too much, start with five minutes and build up gradually.

Meditation breaks down the walls of our conditioned mind and gives us an opportunity to become more authentic. As you meditate more often, you’ll gain perspective

the restricting thoughts you’ve been playing over in your mind.

People can be toxic, too. A toxic person might be someone who criticizes everything you do; expects too much; lacks respect; shows very little support. They might ridicule, neglect, physically abuse, manipulate and belittle you. These people are usually unwilling to confront their toxic actions and make changes.

So when you find yourself around people who are toxic towards you, your inner peace will be lost and you’ll be more likely to pass on the pain this causes you to others. This begs the question: Is it selfish to think of ourselves here, or is it selfish of them to expect that we should be okay with it?

But once you remove those people from your life, you make way for a river of positivity to flow. You’ll have time and space for introspection, healing and growth, and like the plant, you too will become strong.

However, this response exposed something that’s very common in the world: shifting blame. We’re quick to point out what’s wrong with someone else so that we can avoid taking responsibility for our own actions.

I’ve learned this with my partner. Sometimes I take my jokes too far and cause offence. If she then bravely admits her vulnerability to me, the worst thing I can do is make her feel bad for opening up to me by being defensive and shifting blame onto her. You can’t tell someone that their feelings are invalid. You have to try to seek understanding first. Identify why they feel the way they do and then see what you can do to make it better.

Your mind may also suggest hideous ideas to you, such as your partner finding them attractive because their nose is perfect. You may then take your pain out on your partner, accusing them of flirting, even if it was completely innocent. You’ll project your insecurity onto them and imply that they’re malicious, they lack love and they’re disrespectful. This is emotional manipulation, where instead of taking responsibility for your own emotions, you take them out on someone else.

In fact, if you reflect on your past with a serious ex-partner, there was probably a point where you thought that they were the best thing ever. Later, you may have found out that they weren’t quite what you expected them to be.

But it’s easy to fall into the trap of hanging on to people because you see their light and their potential to be a great partner; however, deep down you know that you’re clinging to false hope. If you’re with someone who isn’t willing to become better, you may be wasting your time.

The right partner won’t complete you. You’re already whole. Instead, the right partner will extend you. They’ll catalyse your growth and the expansion of your consciousness. It’s like finding love in someone who encourages you to find the love in yourself, which you keep giving back.

This person’s gut already had the answer, even before they asked me for my advice. I always tell people to trust their instinct, because that’s their soul whispering advice to them.

When you think a certain thought, you’ll get a strange little feeling in your belly, and that’s what I believe is your intuition. It’s one of the best guidance systems around!