Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

by Vex King

Simplify your circle of friends. Keep those who add value to your life; remove those who don’t. Less is always more when your less means more.

How many of these people are really your friends? Could you turn to them in a time of need? Unfortunately, many modern friendships aren’t based on emotional support or a family-like connection. Instead, they’re based on drinking, smoking, partying, shopping or gossiping together – some of which happen to be habits that will lower your vibration.

A lot of these types of friendships may be based on short-term mutual gain. For example, some friends may only play an active role in your life when both of you need someone to accompany you to public events, such as parties. The person you go to the gym with might be considered a friend, but if you ever needed help moving house, would they be available to lend a hand? Would they offer to help? Although these friendships may not be bad, because they assist you in serving a purpose, they quickly fall away when you’re in need of help. You can’t always expect those people to be there for you.

Notice the people who celebrate your achievements, wish you a happy birthday, get excited about your goals and encourage you to do better without losing your sense of self. Those are the people worth keeping around.

the people around you choose different paths or aren’t quite where you are, that’s okay. If they’re supposed to be in your life, sooner or later they’ll be there; your journeys will align again eventually.

We shouldn’t conceal the fact that sometimes it’s our own family members who are the most toxic people in our lives.

If you’re listening to someone ranting on about how troublesome their life is and you’re not feeling great yourself, you could be heading for a major energy drain.

Before you try to fix someone else’s vibe, make sure you’re not killing your own in the process. Protect your own energy first.

Here are some important reminders to help you remain peaceful when people speak negatively about you. You’ll begin to realize that the best defence is silence and joy.

‘Nobody can hurt me without my permission.’

People who have made mistakes or fallen on hard times rapidly become trending topics as a result of a cultural addiction to the downfall of others.

They want to dampen our will and drive so that their ego doesn’t feel overshadowed. By belittling us, they believe they won’t feel so little themselves. These people exist and they’ll show up on our path to a greater life. We mustn’t deny their existence, but we mustn’t react either. A reaction is exactly what they want to make us feel down and protect their ego.

Whether or not you believe in reincarnation, most of us accept the notion that one reaps what one sows. In science, we might recognize this as ‘cause and effect’, or relate it to Newton’s third law – ‘For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.’ And if you look through the majority of religious texts, you’ll find a reference that relates to the idea that what goes around comes around.

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our peace, we have to be a little selfish. We’ll never be able to satisfy absolutely everyone, and that’s exactly why we shouldn’t even try. Give up the habit of being a people-pleaser and start pleasing you!

Constructive opinions can be very beneficial to our growth, but destructive ones that demoralize us don’t have a positive purpose. Abuse and criticism disguised as ‘feedback’ doesn’t deserve your attention.

was as if my attitude was too positive for them. Some people labelled me as fake. I could understand why: I’d gone from someone who complained a lot to someone who made a conscious effort to see the good in things. I’d

taken myself to a different frequency from them, emotionally. The further you are emotionally from another person, the less real you appear to them. This is based on the Law of Vibration.

can make both individuals feel uncomfortable around one another because you just don’t vibe together. Sometimes this is a great indicator of w...

I’ve never regretted my decision and I’m thankful for all the difficulties I faced before I started over; for example, the wounds from working the wrong jobs gave me wisdom and resolve that’s helped me to create a better life for myself and others. Nonetheless, it’s very common for people to become stuck in harmful workplaces. But they push us into unhealthy mental states and greatly affect our wellbeing.

A person who accepts themself as they are can inspire the world. And that can be you. You could show the world how to reach joy through self-acceptance.

Their heart, mind and spirit must be beautiful to you, too. A luxury sports car is useless without an engine, as is someone who’s beautiful to you only physically; it’ll be difficult to move forward in life with them if they don’t share your inner values.

Physical beauty does nothing but satisfy physical needs. Only those with real substance can satisfy the hearts, minds and souls of others.

Real beauty must be deeper than what meets the eye. It must go beyond the skin. Our bodies can always change, but our internal beauty can last a lifetime. This is where your value is and why it’s so important to spend time on building your character. After all, you can buy surgery but you can’t purchase a new personality. You can attract many people with your looks, but you can only hold on to a great person with what you have on the inside.

We’re too hard on ourselves. We remember everything that we’ve done wrong, but hardly ever think about the things we’ve done right. Does that sound familiar? If it does, it’s because you’re too self-critical.

Without control, we panic and end up in low vibrational states, such as anxiety. Ultimately, we end up having no control over how much joy we experience, as we become slaves to other people’s opinions. Fear and scarcity are commonly used to control society. I’ve known many people who, instead of living the life they’d have chosen, have lived the life they were told to by others in the form of well-meaning guidance and support. And while some people want what’s best for you, they may not understand what’s best for you. They may also make decisions for you based on fear that’s been passed on to them by someone else.

Authenticity is rare these days, and many of our actions are at the suggestion of someone else. Without drawing you into paranoia, we’re easily reprogrammed to satisfy the needs of another human being – or, indeed, of a corporation.

We can always improve ourselves and grow as individuals. We can step out of our comfort zone and challenge ourselves. But society often makes us feel like we’re wrong for just being ourselves.

Your words are creative energy – an idea we’ll expand on in the next section. They’re extremely powerful in either supporting you or limiting your life experience. When you use words to belittle yourself, you diminish your own joy.

It’s just as important that you let go of the past, too. People may have done things to you in the past that you feel are unforgivable. You might not even remember what they did, but you hang on to how they made you feel. Attaching yourself to these ill feelings will only be destructive to your mood, dragging your vibration down. When you forgive people you don’t improve the past,

you improve your present and future. You give yourself more peace and build more positive energy internally.

Those who can’t forgive people who’ve hurt them will only fall victim to them. Imagine having a major fall out with someone because they betrayed you. Initially, you’re livid and hurt. You cut yourself loose from them and eventually you forget about it – until you see them again. At this point you replay memories of what they did to you and your pain returns, because you haven’t act...

Forgiveness isn’t about condoning someone’s poor behaviour an...

mean that you need to invite individuals back into your life; it simply means that you’ll no longer allow them power over your thoughts and control over your emotional st...

A positive mind is greater than a negative mind. Positive thinking is the act of choosing thoughts and actions that support us rather than hinder us, and it brings the best outcome in any situation.

For example, a cricket batsman needs six runs to win a game from the last ball. If he’s fearful and believes he can’t hit a six to win the game, he probably won’t attempt it, so he won’t manage it. However, if he picks an empowering thought such as I can

The empowering thought creates a possibility, while the limiting thought eradicates his chances.

Every single one of your thoughts is either helping you move forward in life or holding you back. Positive thinking is about favouring the one that moves you forward. And it’s never too late to change your thoughts and reshape your beliefs to support, rather than hinder, yourself.

So the next time someone tells you you’re being unrealistic about your goal and to come back to reality, realize that it’s only their reality that they’re talking about, not yours.

But most of us allow both good and bad seeds to fall within this soil. This means that limiting ideas are among those constantly taking root in our subconscious, since they’re repeatedly sown there. As the subconscious doesn’t evaluate these ideas, they gradually reshape our beliefs. This means fearful, jealous and power-hungry individuals will constantly feed bad seeds into your

mind that will limit your potential in life. You might be told to ‘Wake up’ and ‘Be realistic’.

Look at any disempowering thought as not really you and let it pass by. Or select a more empowering thought. For example, if you’ve just lost your job, you could focus on the thought that says you’re going to be unemployed and broke, which will make you feel hopeless and lower your vibration. Or you could focus on the opportunity to find a new job that pays more. The second thought will make you feel better and raise your vibration.

This is the practice of living consciously: unlearning and reconditioning the mind so you can have more freedom to be who you really are. It’s not a quick process, but with

In short: rather than trying to control external events, concentrate on controlling how your mind responds to them. This gives you back your personal power and is the key to a happy life.

Your goal isn’t to get rid of negative thoughts; it’s to change your response to them.

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We can’t rely on our environment to create new outcomes; it’s not usually within our control. However, as the cannon barrel in your life, you can easily fire a ball at a different angle or from a different height, so that it lands further away or in a different place, simply by changing your thoughts. This is within your control.

Escape your mental limitations. Don’t spend your life being imprisoned by a belief system that limits your potential and prevents your dreams from coming true.

Reading their success stories disproved everything I’d been conditioned to believe. They helped me to build a solid case against my own rational mind, using evidence. The

The key point here is that if you want to change your belief, you have to disprove your current belief by finding enough evidence to support the belief you want. There are always

From personal experience, reciting statements that I simply can’t trick myself into believing doesn’t work effectively. Going back to my example about changing beliefs, I couldn’t just tell myself that I could change my future and do big things. I had to find proof to challenge my old beliefs rationally.